Dimmes How I live the anger You have and I’ll tell you who you are. As a recent article by the Magazine recalls Body and Soulwe speak so much of love language, but there is also that of anger. And it is very important to know what your own is. Because if it is true that Anger is a primary emotionimportant and functional as much as fear or joy, it is equally true that The company educated us to suffocate it, considering it dangerous, inadequate, to be avoided at any cost. Yet learning to Know your type of anger it can help you improve the way you live relationships and conflictsraising the quality of your inner life. According to the cited article, they exist 5 personalities of anger: recognize what yours is and learn to use this emotion to your advantage. Key word: awareness.
Explosive anger
If you happen to Losing the brackets easilyraise your voice, scream and then maybe regret you immediately after, you could recognize yourself in this profile. Explosive anger presents itself as a fusewhich expands for a wrong phrase or for accumulated frustration. But often it is not the contigent reason that generates it as much as a sense of stratified injustice over time and never faced.
Passive-aggressive anger
Don’t scream, don’t raise your voice, But throw arrow, beat your doors, or close yourself in prolonged silence that weighs like a boulder. This type of anger is often unconscious and manifests itself through behaviors that confuse and destabilize who is next to you. Inside Ribolli, outside smiles. But that smile is a mask.
Repressed anger
You may never get angry. Or rather: You may have learned not to do it. Grow in a family environment where anger was not allowed may have you led to remove itto believe that “it is not well” to try it. But what does not express disappears: remains inside and often turns into physical symptoms, anxiety, latent discomfort, insomnia and psychosomatic disorders.
Vendicative anger
Hit you after, cold. Remember every detail, every wrong immediately And you tend to return it with interest. This personality lives anger as something to doseforfeit and then release in a surgical way and studied. But often this mode ends up consuming yourself firstthat the other.
When it is chronic
It is what insinuates itself into everyday life as one state of mood perennial: you are irritable, tense, always ready for controversy. There is no precise cause, more A sum of frustrationsignored or disappointed expectations. Everything becomes a reason for friction. And live like this for a long time, wears and makes you sick.
It is not just an emotion to be repressed: anger can reveal who you are, what you really want and where to put the boundaries (Getty Images)
How to transform anger into a force that guides you
According to the Dr. Elisa Stefanati, Psychologist and psychotherapist EMDR at the AESTHE AESTHE POLIAMORY of Ferrara and Milan, “Anger is a fundamental emotion that guarantees our well -being and operationand to know the shades allows us to recognize it as a resource, not as a threat». The key lies in awareness. “Very often We have not been educated to feel and regulate this emotionbut learning to do it gives us personal power. In fact if it welcomes, it allows us to protect ourselvesaffirm our needs and maintain authentic relationships, with others and with us. The point is not to delete it or repress it, but learn to regulate its intensity and recognize its message and real meaning. In this way anger can help us defend what is important, to react to injusticesto overcome obstacles. But only If we stop being ashamed of it And let’s start listening to it ».
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