The dating apps They do not analyze the places chosen by their users for dating, among other reasons because after the ‘match’ -when both parties give each other the green light- many couples move their talks to ‘WhatsApp‘. But the interviews carried out by this newspaper have in common the disparity of the chosen scenarios when there is finally a first physical contact.
There are no local references and the meetings take place throughout the city, with the only coincidence that bars and rides they are usually the two main starts of a relationship. These are some tips according to users with years of filming.
At home versus public spaces
There is no shortage of candidates, especially male ones, who directly propose a first date at home. 41-year-old Emma S. is one of those who completely rules it out, because her purpose is not a quick sexual relationship, although for many it is the goal. She prefers to stay in bars or parks, “always public and crowded spaces” that confer certain security. This aspect is key above all for them: not being alone with a person they don’t know beyond what they wanted to project from a distance.
So the little ones neighborhood bars and terraces They usually mark the first dates, because many prefer a setting where they can talk without crowds. Looking for an environment trustbut at the same time with knowledge of the facts (they make good coffee, they throw the best beer, music that we like plays…) so that the scenery is not a disaster.
Precautions in case it does not curdle
When it comes to true dating addicts, the search for neutral spaces, says Adela, a 26-year-old university student: “I don’t stay in my favorite bars because more than once I wanted to run away and never see the same guy again, and I can’t risk him coming back there or liking it,” says this practitioner –admits– of ‘ghosting’. For this reason, she alternately stays in different neighborhoods, in front of a store, for example, and from there she chooses where to have something to drink, that is lively, even though she has never set foot in it in her life.
If you’ve hit it off and share interests, Emma adds, for a second date, it is customary to introduce a cultural space, an exhibition, a museum… Because then you are less aware of the initial x-ray, and you can have a more relaxed meeting, check if there really is an affinity.
The followers advise against dinners, in case the meeting is a failure and one wants to leave as soon as possible
To dine or not to dine
There are those who try to be more creativecontributes Alejandro, a 32-year-old computer scientist, convinced that if there have been enough previous conversations and ‘feeling’, the best opportunity is offered by a suitable setting: panoramic hotel terraces, an ‘escape room’ session, a concert in a bar from an unknown band, or a beach bar with views of the sunset: “I think that women, in addition to talking, value having a good time that first day”.
Another temptation for many is to stay directly for have dinner or eat, the movie quote par excellence. However, the most advantaged users advise against it. Ricardo, 51, recalls “endless dinners, with women who barely spoke, who only talked about their divorce or who were 10 years older than they had put on their profile.” He has managed to leave before the second course, he admits. In addition, despite the First Dates television format, for many eating requires a moment that can entail a certain strainabout who pays what and what each asks for.
From the vermouth to the hotel
On the contrary, many supporters defend the vermouth as the perfect time for a first approach: with a toast it’s easy to get the talk flowing, the schedule doesn’t involve so many embarrassing situations because if the date goes on there are many more places to go later (which is not the case with date nights), and the meeting can be brief if it suits.
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Joan, 35, adds that gay dating app users have a special predilection for meetings in the bars on the axis of the gayxampleespecially in the streets of Villarroel and Consell de Cent, and on the Mar Bella beach.
In general, if the goal is a sexual encounter, the time slot is usually indifferent. And a good option, if you don’t want second parties and who can locate you, is to resort to hotels that accept reservations by the hour (byhours.com). Even in the middle of the night. But for dates where a more leisurely or serious relationship is sought, several testimonies agree, it is common to meet in the middle of the afternoon, after work, or at any time during the day on weekends.