The advice of the psychotherapist Alessandra Monno
The news often testifies to events that show how quickly what happens on social media can turn into a real crime scene. Meat and blood, to be clear. In this context, it emerges, among the greatest virtual risks, The Revenge Porn. We entrust this focus to the psychotherapist Alessandra Monno. “Let’s start with a data – the expert presses – the Revenge Porn is a crime. Then we can face all the psychological implications of the case but the whole community must start from this clear and clear base: spreading intimate images and videos, nude, in sexual situations, without the consent of the other person is illegal. If in addition we think that those who put it, in practice, are moved by desire for revenge, devaluation or humiliation of the other, it also becomes immoral and squalid“.
Revenge Porn: Avengers and victims
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On the side of the abusant it is a claim of power over the other person or, to say it with the words of Alessandra Monno, “by A form of violence exactly like rape or physical mistreatment. The data – underlines the psychotherapist – tell us that it is above all men who put this behavior into practice. As for the victims, for 70% they are women, 13% belong to the LGBQT+ community“. One wonders what the reasons for this abuse are. “These people, mostly men, do not accept the end of a relationship. Sometimes – underlines the psychotherapist – while betraying, they cannot stand the idea of having been betrayed. We know very well how even feminicides or permanent face lesions have increased in recent years. The change of society and the role of women, more independent and free, is not always fully welcomed by all men“.
on the side of the victim
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It is about having trusted. “The victim has implemented a behavior that falls within the complicity. But that behavior is poorly interpreted, or maliciously distorted, by the other. The consequences are devastating: anxiety, depression and possible loss of work. On this last point I would like to emphasize how an uninhibited female behavior in private life can negatively influence the opinion on a woman’s cognitive and professional skills. Never of a man. We are still imbued with an ancient religious and male chauvinist culture for which there is the denial of sexuality only on the one hand. This aspect contributes to reissue the person: undergoes the Revenge Porn, faces the psychological repercussions of the abuse and must also deal with the concrete social consequences “.
the appeal of the expert
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It should be repeated: when intimacy comes out of the desire and the will of both becomes abuse. Becomes harmful to the freedom and dignity of the other. “I feel I solicit the attention of people on the so -called Alerts or spy crimes, that is, behaviors that can activate our sense of danger and that often anticipate violent or abusive behavior. It is important to react to the alarm bells and – insist on Alessandra Monno – to have the courage to put an end to the relationship. The Revenge Porn must be denounced without feeling shame. You have to forgive yourself for noticing too late who the person was really confused on“. As for the teenagersthe appeal is not to take the spread of one’s image light. “Today more than ever – warns the expert – we must be on guard, because the so -called virtual risks can generate negative repercussions on the life of the user very real and concrete. The Revenge Porn is not only the result of the revenge of a partner, but also the result of a spite, of an evil game. In adolescent age it is necessary to understand well of who to trust, with those who can serenely have these exchanges and who not. We must learn to protect yourself, even by sending photos and videos that are without references (excluding, for example, face and tattoos). At this age it is necessary to understand who really loves us and who less. Learn not to believe that everything is insurmountable and infinite and realize that everything, even a possible too much photo, is resolved and overcome “.
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