- Don’t rush or run away.
Although it seems impossible, your goal has to focus on recovering and turning the page by focusing on productive actions.
Take things easy. You can take the situation as an opportunity to get to know yourself better, identify your desires and needs more clearly and thereby grow as a person. Before making a decision about big changes in your life (changing friends, moving, leaving your job, etc.) you should focus on the changes that are taking place in you internally and make peace with your new personal situation.
Avoid at all costs making hasty decisions about your future trying to escape from your current discomfort. Running away from difficulties may be a temporary relief, but it will not improve your mood permanently. The best way to overcome your current state of mind is to accept it and work on it.
- Work loneliness and insecurity.
Feeling abandoned can generate great insecurities, believing that one is not good enough or that we will end up alone is also a habitual thought, as if ending up alone would be something negative. Not anymore, it’s not. One can decide and choose to be alone.
One way to combat negative thoughts might be to focus on the positive aspects of yourself, which at one time contributed to maintaining the loving relationship.
The breakup situation can be reconceptualized as an opportunity to redefine yourself. Thinking about who we are, what we want to do or be in the near future may initially seem scary, but what better time to decide what we want than now?
- When you need it, ask for help.
To get through the grieving situation, it helps to have someone you trust who can help you through the whole process. You shouldn’t be afraid to express your feelings in front of them because you don’t want to risk being judged; without a doubt, the people around you will want to support you and listen to you when you need it. On the other hand, you can also seek help from experts. Contrary to popular belief, seeking professional help does not always mean that you cannot solve the problem on your own or that there are no others to support you. You must adapt to this change, trying to make it as less harmful as possible, you must also take the opportunity to learn from the situation and take advantage of your experience. It is possible that you feel more secure or receive some guidance on how to make the most of the situation, come out of it strengthened as a person, acquire new resources and skills that can help you if you have the support of someone trained to listen to you and guide you through this process.
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by CEDOC
