Sometimes the need for personal growth of someone who is part of a system results in embarking on their own path, leaving the common structure to allow, to give rise to that process.
The system can consist of a society, a work organization, a family, a couple, among many others.
Departures can be abrupt, organized, tacit, necessary, opportune, unexpected, forced, disconcerting, painful, angry, imperceptible, these are some of the innumerable ways of leaving.
What will that form depend on?
Who will make the decision?
How will you communicate?
What consequences will the decision have on the system?
I think there is no correct formula.
In some cases the system will generate the opportunity for that decision to take shape, strength and be externalized. In others, whoever finally makes the decision to leave will create the necessary conditions for it to happen, because otherwise, what was decided could not come to light.
There are people who drive so much that they are uncontrollable, they unintentionally overshadow, they do not give the other room to grow by their side. They don’t do it on purpose. For those who accompany these people, the challenge is posed to try to do the same by creating a space or leaving.
Perhaps those who can see the other’s need for growth of their blessing and look at whoever decides to leave with good eyes, so that this process continues.
There are also other forms, the apparently less kind ones, a discussion that allows us to release what has been growing in silence for years, an illness that shows something that we are not listening to, a breakup as a result of the conflict over the existence of a lover (be it a person or a work or leisure activity) that exposes something that does not work.
There are as many ways to leave as there are people on the planet, each one with its individuality and its mark. Finding an ideal way to do it goes against the possible.
Whatever the way chosen to start, it is necessary to make room for understanding, either on the part of the person making the decision or on the part of the person receiving the communication of what was decided. Gratitude for what has been experienced and shared, whatever its nature, will also claim a place.
It is not always possible to make room for understanding and gratitude at the moment the decision is made. There are many cases in which this process requires additional time.
The time to make room for them is not determined, and will depend on each person’s internal process. There will also be cases where it will not be possible to give them space and we need to accept this to move forward. The important thing is to make the unconscious conscious.
Ana Laura Diaz
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