In recent years, a trend began to gain followers, to the point of taking the form of parties where people related to the “BDSM” code they enjoy and share their most private pleasures. Is about the kinky parties, spaces or discotheques where, under the matrix of bondage, discipline-domination or sadomasochism, the participants experience their sexual diversity. For those who have not yet imagined the scene, it would be an aesthetic and sensory mix between the film “Ojos bien cerrados”, the series “Instinto” (with Mario Casas) and the play “Sex” (by Muscari).
“First I discovered the swinger clubs where from the first day I felt comfortable, but when I went to the club for the first time durx party I understood that I had found my place in the world. The best thing is the diversity, then the music that is very techno and the BDSM theme that gives rise to incredible costumes. That night I danced non-stop and felt free and respected for the first time, something that is impossible in traditional clubs”, says Cinthia (40 years old, personal trainer) when consulted by NEWS. Her life is like that of any mother with a 20-year-old daughter. She works, she loves cats and on her Instagram she promotes a healthy and fit life.
Rules.
To understand a little more about the code of ethics of these parties, it is necessary to break down these acronyms that have nothing to do with a political or paramilitary group. “BDSM” is a term that includes a group of erotic practices and fantasies. “Bondage” is associated with ties to establish power roles as master-slave. “Discipline” determines rules, punishments and behavior protocols. “Domination” is the will over the person who adopts a role of “submission”, who is the one who allows it to be ordered, while “sadism” is the pleasure obtained by causing pain or humiliation. Finally, “masochism”, pleasure received through suffering or humiliation. It is worth a clarification: andl “BDSM” rejects everything that does not have the consent of the partner.
There are many parties that handle this identity. Within this nocturnal universe, The parties “Durx”, “SexHum”, “FaGotParty” and “KanKan Club, Hard Cabaret” are on point. Tickets range from the 3500 and 6000 pesos and its dissemination is through social networks. They are monthly, itinerant, thematic, performative parties and with resident DJs. The only requirement to participate is to be of legal age.
Even if one assumes an unlimited level of overflow, the kinky parties they have a strict regulation that, if not complied with, offenders are permanently expelled. The organizers of “Durx”, for example, are very clear about what is not allowed: “Invasion of another’s body without their consent, or not accepting a ‘no’, is interpreted as harassment and will be grounds for of immediate and lifelong expulsion. It is also not allowed to visually harass or photograph the body of another without prior approval.
Esthetic.
An important point when entering these parties is the wardrobe. Although everyone can go as they feel comfortable, from casual clothes to the most extravagant outfit, there is a culture of image, impact and histrionics that plays when choosing the look. As we already mentioned, the topic is the language “BDSM”: lots of leather, harnesses, latex, muzzles, spike collars and chainsbut there is also room for fantasy with costumes with masks or dreamlike designs. “My look is very simple but comfortable. I go with boots, stockings, skirt, top and a bag. When I arrive I go to the bathroom, I take off everything and leave it in the wardrobe. I’ll take the boots and a very small thong to dance naked all night on the speaker” resumes Cinthia in her fashionista description, while Jorge Valecillo (26 years old), graduated from a psychologist and in full civil union, deepens: “Here is two sides. My boy, who is calmer in that aspect and is dressed in a tank top and shorts, and I, feel that I have to comply with the theme. And since I am an exhibitionist by nature, I attach great importance to the wardrobe. I don’t have a perfect body but I don’t care, I show it off with pride. I put on my harnesses, sexy underwear and I am happy with what I show. I know I’m going to be in a safe space where no one is going to look down on me or laugh at me.”
In the kinky parties Freedom and lack of prejudice prevail, but there is an area where limits are not broken: music. The soundtrack is dance, at full volume and in its most varied palette: Electro-pop, House and Trance. And we come to the instance that generates the most curiosity, which makes many people interested in knowing these places: sex. At kinky parties, free sex is practiced both with one’s own partner or with the person who gives their consent. “I go with my partner and friends but once inside, there is no stipulated dynamic, it all depends on how things go. If I’m dancing with my partner and he needs to go to the sex room with someone he met there, he can go there without any problem, as long as he tells me,” adds Jorge. And Cinthia concludes: “You meet people and you can interact with whoever you want. You can have sex there and not see it anymore or create a bond.
Amaranta (31), the fictitious name of a regular, confesses: “I have seen people have sex in all the places in the place: sex rooms, bathrooms, corridors. I like to do it on stage because I love being seen, I know that no one is going to judge me or look down on me. I have kissed everyone, everyone. But, although I am very open sexually, I never went to the tunnel, you can’t see anything and that already seems too strong to me ”.
Freedom, respect, lack of prejudice and diversity are the characteristics of these meetings, which mobilize thousands of people every weekend. Hearts that leave hanging in their house the formal suit that society forces them to wearand looked for their most intimate fiber, they go out to enjoy their five senses to the full.
