“I’d rather have a guy who cheats than someone who doesn’t respect or understand me”

In an interview with Beau Monde Tanja tells about this turbulent period and how to proceed with her relationship.

Tanja Jess about turbulent times

Tanja candidly says that the marital problems are not the only thing she has been confronted with lately: “Due to the pandemic, a lot of work was lost. I have two seriously ill fathers, my father and my stepfather have a form of metastatic cancer. One of my best friends (Chimène van Oosterhout, ed.) got breast cancer for the third time and had to go through the entire chemo process.”

Child in transition

And that’s not all: “Our oldest child is in transition. She was born in a boy’s body, but turns out to be a girl and has been going through life for a while as Alice. And that transition that you have to deal with as a 50+ woman does not help either.”

marital problems

In April, when the rumors of relationship problems and cheating played out, Tanja spoke out about this for the first time. She said she was on her husband’s side. She stated on Instagram: “We have been together for over 21 years, so I am aware of Charly’s extremely insecure childhood and know his demons and issues.” That’s why she doesn’t just leave him: ‘If you love someone, you don’t just drop them, even if they are damaged and/or sick.’

There is still a lot of love

Even now Tanja says again: “If you’ve been together for a hundred years, you don’t just throw in the towel.” She does not know exactly what the future will look like: “What I do know is that we will remain a team in any case and remain connected to each other. Our base is very strong and there is still a lot of love between us. We’ll find our way. It is not yet clear whether this is entirely according to traditions, or as other people do.”

Better cheating than disrespect

Tanja thinks it is nonsense that many people think that you only have a good relationship if no one is cheating. “The physical is only one aspect of a relationship. There are so many other components. I’d rather have a guy who cheats once, but with whom I have a great life, than someone who is always faithful, but doesn’t respect or understand me.”

Tanja Jess and Chimène van Oosterhout have been friends for years. But how well do they know themselves and each other? Libelle’s dilemmas put the truth on the table:

Source: Beau Monde

July 5, 2022

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