Land romance scams continue to reap victims among women. Impostors are mostly virtual boyfriends which never reveal themselves, but which continue to ask for money to girlfriends, up to decreeing, in the most serious cases, even the bankruptcy. How is it possible there are still women who fall into these sentimental traps? We asked the love coach.
Scammers and scammers
The latest cases have been registered in Rome and Savona. In the Ligurian capital a woman had a virtual engagement, telephone onlywith a man who promised to marry her, he stole 90 thousand euros from her without ever meeting her. The scam went on for quite some time two years and a half. The man ended up in prison on the decision of the investigating judge. In the capital, behind the figure of a fake officerLarry Brooks, was hiding a gang specializing in the get money delivered by women who had fallen in love with a non-existent character in need of help. For one of the victims, her scam cost him dearly: her house was foreclosed on. “Romance scams like this they are not rare at all, although not all of them are intended to steal money. There’s even a movie about it, “The Tinder Scammer,”” he explains Alessandro Pellizzari, journalist, blogger and author of the book “Love Advisor” (Maretti Editore).
Identikit of the victims
“According to mine couple epidemiologya statistical method based on the testimonies collected on my blog, the 20% of love affairs are only virtual and they stay that way for a long time. Victims of this type of relationship they are not poor deluded or with relational difficulties and singles who dream of romance love, but people who often are returning from toxic or problematic stories, conflicted and difficult divorces or living in marriages in crisis for years, often white. These people meet some real ones professionals of speech and courtship which, in the case of the news, have as their purpose the economic scam but, in most cases, they are other categories that I describe in my book: i keyboard lions or the so-called parasites. I am skilled flatterers and suitorsvery convincing and make their targets feel like queens, finally beautiful women you want and at the center of the attention of a “real” man», continues the expert.
Romance scams: Watch out for emotional damage
“The possible consequences of these relationships should not be underestimated. It is not uncommon for these scammers to damage what I call the DNA emotions of people. Maybe you meet these romance scammers at a time when you’re already vulnerable later problematic stories and emotional deserts. The loss of time is also associated with sentimental damage and, in many cases, even actual physical damage. Disappointment, stress, living badly can lead in the long run psychosomatic diseasesas insomnia, irritable bowel, migraine. Let us not underestimate the pain these stories cause. In many cases, friends are useful but not enough. It is therefore good to contact the specialists before it is too late», advises Pellizzari.
Virtual VS real
“Watch out for noon exchanging the virtual world for the real one. Almost all men who do not love or what they have an ulterior motive which has nothing to do with the love declared in words, they use in an anomalous and predominantly if not exclusive way chats and messages. As if to say that the roast is little, the smoke is a lot. But in love, as well as in other areas of life, facts are needed, not words. The words must be just an outline. These men are not necessarily cheaters, maybe they are married and maintaining virtual relationships they believe they are not cheating on their wife. But the virtual betrayal is comparable to the real one. He says it there Cassation», Pellizzari concludes.
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