Nodespite the uncertainty in which we navigate, over 9 out of 10 singles seem to be sure of what they want: 86% want to be involved in an electrifying love story that triggers new emotions (data from dating app Meetic).
But be careful, Prince Charming or the beloved Princess must have a long list of important features: honesty and sincerity come first (55%), followed by being respectful (36%) and reliable (34%, for women in particular. Sense of humor drops in the ranking, considered important by only 26%. sign of the impact of international situation: laughter makes room for reliability precisely because everyone wants a bit of serenity, at least with their significant other.
In the digitalized universe of social relationships, what people are looking for is a return to shared intimacy, beyond the modern perspective that makes meeting a social practice and free sexuality a regulatory injunction. Far from being simple facilitators of disposable relationships, Dating apps are valuable tools for modern humans who, increasingly aware, are entering new times seeking deep and fulfilling connections.
That’s what he discovered Meetic in its latest research, where 71% of singles interviewed believe that it is possible to make unexpected encounters on dating sites and apps, leaving room for surprises and unexpected connections. Furthermore, 67% of users think that it is possible to experience romantic encounters through digital meansthus dispelling the myth that authentic love can only be reserved for more traditional methods.
Singles looking for a real connection
If the aspect of romance proved to be fundamental for 90% of the people who participated in the research, only 17% think that the feeling of being destined to be together is important for creating an authentic bond. In fact, more value is given to aspects such as feeling understood by the other person (52%) and being accomplices (54%).
The romantic spirit is therefore recognized in creating an understanding and a real connectionunderlining the importance of genuine emotions and mutual feeling in finding a partner with whom to share your life.
In fact, only 17% of those interviewed expect dating apps to offer as many profiles as possible, compared to 41% of whom expect to be offered a selection that corresponds to their expectations.
Love in the times of ‘Cuffin Season’
There’s something about the colder weather that drives people to look for a partner to settle down as soon as possible. To counteract this winter-related pressure, Bumblethe dating app where women make the first move, asked its psychologist and relationship expert, Dr. Valeria Locatito explain what there is to know about this phenomenon.
The Cuffing Season is a period in which we witness a real spike in dating, often organized with the hope of finding a partner with whom to spend the winter months. During this time, people feel the need and often the pressure to find someone to start a relationship with. While some are looking for a serious relationship, ‘Cuffing Season’ relationships can last less than the winter itself.
What singles are looking for on dating apps
How to spot people who are just looking for a relationship for the Cuffing Season? It can be difficult to decipher someone’s intentions in a relationship, which is why it’s important to be clear about yours. Meanwhile, Bumble has identified three warning signs to watch out for to avoid finding yourself in a relationship that’s doomed to end come the spring season.
The time of year and the speed: if someone shows interest only now that the seasons have changed and therefore tries to move quickly. He will likely be anxious to hastily schedule more dates and will want to finalize the relationship within a few weeks in order to solidify the relationship.
Stay away from the sofa: if a person just wants to stay at home and their idea of a date is limited to seeing a movie and eating takeout on the couch. Furthermore, she shows no interest in introducing her significant other to friends and family and spends time only as a couple.
Words are important: a person who says they only want something short-term or has no intention of committing to one serious and long-lasting relationship. He doesn’t plan appointments or activities beyond the next week, let alone until spring.
How to deal with dating started via dating apps
To avoid giving in to the pressures of Cuffing SeasonBumble has partnered with the Dr. Valeria Locati, psychologist and relationship expertto understand why you feel this way and how to approach dating this time of year.
«It is difficult, sometimes, to manage that sense of frustration that emerges when we realize that we have not yet found a person who can stay by our side, with whom we can share moments of authenticity. But, in order for sharing to be full and authentic, perhaps it is worth reflecting on the importance of focus on what we really need.
Net of social pressures, which are needed at all costs ‘coupled’, let’s try to understand what we need and not everyone else. How are we with ourselves, for example? This is the first prerequisite for a healthy relationship, because dealing with ourselves means increasing awareness and the possibility of being happy.
Even before reaching a milestone of two. In this way, we will avoid ‘settling’ for the first person we cross our path. AND we will avoid the risk of binding ourselves without too much convictionjust for the need to have someone by our side.
So let’s take all the time we need to understand our potential partner, evaluate who we are and become in his presence and build a solid relationship, based on trust and shared values, not on the contingent need to not feel alone. And if winter can lead to an accentuation of feelings of loneliness and the desire for companionship, we prioritize self-care, focusing on our mental and emotional well-being. In due time, it will be extremely useful to us”, comments the psychologist.
Dating app stress: just pause
Bumble data shows that For more than half (52%) of women, dating can be stressful at times. Phenomena such as Cuffing Season can increase these feelings as they add an extra layer of social pressure. Anyone who needs a break for a while can still pause their Bumble activity for 24 hours, 72 hours, a week, or indefinitely using the mode Snoozeall without missing any matches or chats.
Watch out for online love scams
Fake profiles, misleading information, scam attempts… There’s no denying it, the world of dating apps is also populated by people who aren’t actually looking for new acquaintances, but whose goals are not always flattering.
To best navigate the many profiles and avoid the risks of possible scams, especially financial ones, Tindertogether with parent company Match Group and in collaboration with Advocating Against Romance Scammers, has launched a global campaign to help users protect themselves.
With the establishment of World Romance Scam Prevention Day, Tinder wants to remind you of the importance of interactions between online users. The aim is to help increase education and awareness on a problem that affects millions of people, namely that of online love scams.
According to the FBI, romance scams reported in the United States yield more than any other type of fraud, with over 3 billion dollars. A problem that affects users of all ages: even if it is older people who register the greatest number of complaints, the phenomenon is also increasing rapidly among very young people.
«World Romance Scam Prevention Day wants help users who are victims of scams not to blame themselves. It is precisely the feeling of shame that often prevents victims (about 97% of them) from reporting or seeking justice”, states Kathy Waters, executive director of Advocating Against Romance Scammers.
This initiative marks another important step in the public awareness campaign that Match Group launched last January, to remind users of the ways in which everyone can protect themselves from online scams. Over the past few years, Match Group brands have taken proactive measures to help prevent and warn users of potential scams or fraud, from introducing new features like selfie verification and video chat, to messages to con safety tips which appear when inappropriate language is detected in conversations between users.
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