Childhood and adolescence are periods of helplessness and vulnerability, which we have all experienced without exception. The patriarchal culture that has tended in other times and still does, to mistreat and humiliate the most basic needs of the growing human being. This is replicated through dysfunctional family models. Where the basic psychological needs for support, protection and loving nourishment are overlooked.
People sometimes come to the office without a clear awareness of the genuine need behind what hurts them, sometimes they just come to complain like children and seek only environmental support.
That has made my question focus on the initial search for why, that they are necessary. Along the way I came across the luminous and transcendent possibility that gives “the why” of a behavior.
From this follows the absolute need to overcome childish patterns, those lines of action that condition our free flow, choices and modes of conflict resolution.
They are those models (unconscious, subconscious ideologies that drag us to repeat familiar behavior models).
Healing the wounds of childhood is going beyond the mandates, feeling the emptiness of firm ground and entering the world of personal choices and the desire that drives when it is proper.
Healing the wounds of our inner child (emotional world) often becomes more complex because as children we have been silent witnesses to different forms of violence, which can range from beatings, verbal abuse, humiliation due to demerit, which leaves a permanent mark, such as toxic shame, guilt, fear and communication problems as adults. The violence of having been put in the position of objects of our parents’ power struggles, can lead us in adulthood, to put ourselves in the position of objects of our partners, or abusive work environments, since the seed of submission has caught on in our personalities from the ideology of domination, since since childhood we have incorporated as Love these Bonds loaded with suffering and ill-treatment, this action became naturalized, then the person no longer questions himself, suffers in silence as he suffered and kept silent in his childhood what he witnessed .
How do we heal past wounds?
First, getting into the Acceptance of our reality, asking for serious professional help.
Restoring healthy limits, exercising our rights, Valuing our word and our presence. Recognizing the negative habits that we have incorporated as a consequence of a childhood and adolescence orphaned of true support.
Letting go of old resentments that limit us and sabotage our choices. Freeing ourselves from the toxic shame that paralyzes.
Finally becoming that father and mother that we need back then. In this way we regain loving control of our lives. The group healing processes for the inner child are highly recommended for anyone who wishes to delve into his biography.
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by CEDOC