Antonella Baccaro (photo by Carlo Furgeri Gilbert)
Lsummer is still the season of betrayals? Suffocated by the summer heat, exhausted by the resurgence of new infections, the deterrent effect, in our days, could be just around the corner.
But this is not the case, if what a big hotelier tells me is true, with the constraint of anonymity, that there is now a very special clientele that this summer is back in strength more than ever.
I’m clandestine couples who, surprisingly, constitute an interesting slice of the market. As I understand it, to create the opportunity was the restart of the events in the presence, conventions and congresses first of all, where the faithless come in the company of unofficial partners.
Who knows how much the lovers suffered during the long period of the “calls”when there could only be a small message sent under the table.
On the psychology of lovers, I advise everyone to resume, perhaps under an umbrella, reading a book that seemed illuminating to me: Fidelity by Marco Missiroli (Einaudi).
“Fidelity” by Marco Missiroli (Einaudi).
Here the story of the young spouses Carlo and Margherita is not, I think deliberately, that of an exhausted couple, unmotivated, in short, in crisis. Among them there is passion, complicity and planning of a common future, all that must not be missing in a marriage that works.
The writer then seems to bet on the thesis that betrayal is first of all a personal fact, which pertains to the relationship between oneself and desire. Which is described in its rising, swinging, exploding, sinking and flowing like a karst river, only to re-emerge without warning.
In all of this, when the desire becomes invincible, the possible effects on the relationship with the partner are not able to act as a barrier. Just as the choice of the lover is secondary who in none of the cases seems able to really blow the couple.
Desire, in this key, dominates man as a major force. An acquittal thesis that I believe can be found in many texts on the subject written by a male hand. All the rhetoric of guilt on which we women prefer to baste our confessions on the subject remains out of this.
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