You do everything to be seen. You take care of everything and everyone. You give, and you give a lot. And not once, not twice, not three. You always give everything and they don’t see you. And it frustrates you, and you get angry with the other and you complain to him. “How can it be that he doesn’t value me?” “What else do I have to do?” It seems that nothing is enough.
And not. It will never be enough because no one is going to give everything for you. They don’t have to and that’s okay. Take care. They are prioritized. Are valued.
Nobody is going to give everything because in that giving everything they forget themselves; and that is fucked up.
They will not value you for saying everything yes. The “yes” gives value to the times that “no” is said. Who is valued more? Someone who is always available or someone who chooses when to be available?
They will not value you because you attend to all the needs of the other. On the contrary. It is an implicit underestimation towards the other. As if the other did not have the capacity to take care of himself.
But you keep giving, there you go occupying all the other’s spaces, giving so much that you don’t give him room to feel your lack, your absence. And here comes the paradox. You give everything to be seen and they don’t see you, you become invisible. You will hoard so much that the other ends up not seeing you.
It is that nobody values someone who is left aside. Nobody values who is not valued.
Record it, tattoo it on fire: They don’t have to value you for what you do for others, they have to value you for who you are.
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