Justice demanded six years in prison against Debby van der V. (35) on Monday for an attempted murder of her husband, Martie van de Sande (40). The Eindhoven woman is said to have administered a large dose of GHB to her husband two or three times last year, but Martie survived this each time.
Wry is that Martie was still killed later that year, but by someone else. He was shot dead in July 2022 by his niece’s stalking ex. He then stayed with her in Kinrooi, Belgium, to protect her against her ex. Martie and his cousin were killed with 13 to 15 bullets. The ex died at the beginning of this month by committing suicide in his cell on his ex’s birthday.
‘Hopeless situation’
The gruesome shooting in Kinrooi, Belgium, has nothing to do with the attempted murder for which Martie’s wife is on trial. But that double murder did get Martie’s wife’s case rolling.
Martie’s brother went to the police with the story that Debby would have wanted to kill Martie. And justice quickly found desperate messages from Debby among acquaintances that she was looking for a solution to the hopeless situation she was in, together with her two sons (now 8 and 11).
Both heavily addicted
Martie, known as ‘The White’, and Debby were heavily addicted. Martie drank all day and used cocaine. Debby also snorted a lot of coke and drank a lot. In fact, she was also under the influence every day and used up to two grams of cocaine daily.
Martie was a nice guy for the first two years of their relationship, starting in 2013, Debby told the judges. But when they had a son together in 2015, that changed. Martie was easily angry and suddenly treated her son from a previous relationship differently. Both boys were afraid of him.
Money for food was the least important thing in a relationship, with the little money mainly going to drink, drugs and cigarettes. Cocaine was the easiest, Debby said, because Martie dealt in it herself.
Better life
Debby wanted to divorce Martie to give her boys a better life, but Martie wouldn’t let her go, she said. Their relationship went up and down and she was mentally burdened by it. For example, in 2018, Debby was with her mother for a few months, but in 2019 she married Marty.
She kept hoping for a better life for her and her boys, but that hope always turned out to be in vain. In August 2021, Debby decided it was done and conceived the plan to give Martie an overdose of the hard drug GHB. According to Debby, she wanted to shake Martie awake with that. If he got sick from that GHB, he might realize he was wrong and turn his life around.
knockout
The public prosecutor thought that Debby had gone too far and accused her of attempted murder. Up to three times in 2022 Debby would have put three caps of GHB in Martie’s beer. One time Martie really knocked out and didn’t wake up until 19 hours later.
That Debby wanted her husband dead can certainly be proven, according to the officer, because app messages show that Debby was disappointed that it always just didn’t work out. For example, she wrote to an acquaintance that Martie really had to ‘knock’ and then she would administer even more GHB through a probe.
Lawyer
Debby’s lawyer dismissed attempted murder. Debby was in a hopeless situation, she pleaded, and wanted to shake Martie up and make him realize he had to stop all those drugs. And as Debby herself said: “If I wanted him dead, I would have succeeded.”
The lawyer asked not to detain Debby any longer, but to start treatment as soon as possible. Debby has a personality disorder and is reportedly impaired. She also wants to start the treatment recommended by experts as soon as possible in order to resume her life with her two sons in the long term.
The court will rule on September 11.
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