Antonella Baccaro (photo by Carlo Furgeri Gilbert).
Belen Rodriguez and Ilary Blasi, two beautiful and successful women, they confessed publicly, on the same day and on live television, that they had been betrayed.
Simple coincidence? Let’s leave aside their personal motivations: There are two very serious divorces underway which may have influenced their choice.
And let’s even abandon the idea of understanding who in the couple is right or wrong. Also because we would be wrong if we thought that the end of a story is the responsibility of only one of the parties involved.
We have been professing only one creed for years: love stories end and the reasons matter little. Chasing logical explanations is pathetic. Complaining is inelegant.
After all, if we admit that love is something that happens, why can’t we accept that at a certain point it stops doing so? We cannot enslave love to rules it does not have.
But there is more we can do. And let’s go back to Belen and Ilary. Who confess in two TV programs with the highest ratings on Sundays that they have been left, and they admit they felt lost and confused.
The first until she felt the bite of depression and touched the threshold of anorexia. A public gesture that overturns the victim narrative we are used to in these cases and contains a new and interesting message: abandonment cannot be a reason for shame, something to hide.
Not only. The state of mind that accompanies these life events must be taken seriously and considered in the same way that we would not overlook the fact of finding ourselves without a vital organ.
Of course, it will be said that Belen and Ilary already have another boyfriend. And money to spend to make the sadness go away. But that would be a wrong perspective. Before looking in the mirror again, consider yourself, imagine drawing on your personal resources to distract yourself, those who are depressed must necessarily go through the tunnel.
«I thought I was ugly. I deleted all the photos from that period” said Belen. More than parties and private parties. One should not die of finite loves and betrayals, but for it to be true to the end, we need to find a way to heal the wounds. And before that, stop being ashamed of it.
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