THEthe father of Positive PsychologyMartin Seligman together with Dr. Christopher Peterson, identified and defined in the late 1990s the 24 human potentials.
They derive from the Virtues and represent the our strengths that characterize us. The Humanistic Coaching it is based on these strengths which are our deepest feelings, those which are significant for our happiness.
Each person has their own unique mix of potential, a mix that can also change over time. Some of these potential they can be latent (not all of them must necessarily belong to us) or repressed it causes life events and training of negative thoughts.
The Advent Calendar
To feel good it is important to be aware of your potential, but equally important is to be able to express them and put them into practice. This Advent Calendar While waiting for Christmas, it will open up a potential every day, explain its meaning from the point of view of Humanistic Coaching and help train them with simple gestures and actions in everyday life.
1. Curiosity
It is the search and discovery of knowledge opportunities; it is the power that pushes human beings towards the search for new knowledge. To cultivate your child’s curiosity, offer foods from other cultures for dinner or take him to visit new places he has never seen.
2. Kindness
It is the action chosen freely and disinterestedly for the good of others.
To cultivate kindness in your children, Be kind first – teenage children don’t listen to our advice and sermons but they notice and learn from our example.
Use kind words when you speak.
Get your kids involved in voluntary activities.
Take an inventory at home and give away what you don’t need.
3. Creativity
In Humanistic Coaching creativity means the ability to produce new ideas to improve lifeto find practical solutions to problems and desires.
We mothers are naturally creative every day, even just choosing what to prepare for dinner.
To train your child’s creativity ask him to create the menu for the week for your dinner.
Change the decor of your home together (intended as changing the position of furniture and objects).
You do together something you have never done (for example paint your emotions).
4. Forgiveness
The ability to rebuild a relationship and of offer the other the opportunity to repair the damage. It is also the ability to forgive yourself, your past mistakes. Forgiveness turns the hurt into a life experience.
Many times if we forgive even just in our mind, we free ourselves from negative emotions, from resentment.
To cultivate forgiveness, imagine what could happen if you forgave those who offended you.
Try to help your child understand the point of view of the person who offended him. Maybe the other did it out of fear, to mask his loneliness, to get attention, out of inattention, out of ignorance.
5. Audacity
The courage to face challenges but through knowledge of the risks; it means the ability to govern fear – not all fears must be overcome.
To cultivate the courage of your children remind them not to be afraid to be themselves and of Don’t be afraid to help someone in need.
Teach them to denounce injustices, abuse, not to remain silent in the face of bullying, not to look the other way.
Often It takes a lot of courage to even ask for helplet’s recommend that our children do it if they find themselves in difficulty (many times they are afraid of our reactions and don’t tell us anything).
6. Citizenship
It is the sense of belonging, loyalty to a group, social responsibility.
To cultivate your children’s sense of belonging, suggest that they participate in a school group that promotes activities for the good of their school.
Share your love for a sports group with your children.
Become a blood donor and/or volunteer in your municipality.
7. Persistence
It is the ability to continue towards the desired goal despite obstacles and difficulties who meet in making it.
To train persistence, write your goals in a diary/diary, and check them every week so that they can inspire you.
Think about what you would like to accomplish in the next five years and make a concrete plan/program of how to get there.
Help your child make a list of weekly mini-goals, reachable (not too easy but not too challenging) for a month. Monitor the progress together and celebrate every time he/she reaches the goal for the week.
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