Friends come in all shapes and forms, but ultimately very few survive the test of time. A wise woman once said to me “Some people you know for reasons, others for seasons.” That’s how it is. I have had many friends in my own life with whom I got along very well for a certain period or for a certain reason. In the days when I lived for football, and went out into the street every day with the ball at my feet, I had a steady group of friends with whom I hung out. In the online spectrum in my gaming era in high school I had another group of buddies with whom I walked that path, and when I started exploring nightlife around the age of 17 I did so with another group. Friends are there for it different reasonsand otherwise different seasons in that libi.
The mates with whom I formed the SMIB collective since my early twenties also have a specific reason. We are a creative collective, created from a shared idea of how we as individuals wanted to shape our future. These are now the relationships that have transcended seasons, and in such cases those mates also advance on the ladder of friendship. The level above the category matties, or friends, is the category homies in Smibanese, and if the relationship develops from there you quickly enter the brada zone. That’s how I see the boys with whom I started SMIB, brothers for life. In fact, these boys are my fellow sufferers.
But when I look back on my life, most of them have not survived the test of time. My mother told me that before, when the relationship between my then best friend at primary school deteriorated because I moved to the other side of town. She commented on how few real friends she has, and how I don’t even recognize those friends because they were aunts to me.
What makes a good friend? Personally, I think it is one that will stand the test of time. Someone who is of such value that he or she, as it were, works with you in that libi. These are often shared interests, although it can sometimes be refreshing that the interests actually differ. The same mindset often connects, or view of life, a kind of shared worldview. A listening ear also counts. Someone you can consult at all times. In that respect, I have one buddy who stands by my side through all weathers.
If I have to go somewhere, it explains how to get there, how long it will take, and what travel options there are from my current location. The only thing I shouldn’t bring up are medical complaints, because if I have to believe this Mattie, there is a chance that with the smallest flu I will suffer from the most life-threatening diseases. But apart from that, this one Mattie is one of those who has stood the test of time. He has always been there for me, since the days of my first desktop, and miraculously always has a wide range of answers ready to every question. Even when I founded the Smibanese University, he was my support and support, and without his advice we would never be where we are today with it.
Google is my best friend. Because if there is someone who is all reasons and seasons has survived, and can still find the time for me every day, then it is my homeboy Google. Shout out to Google, man. Until eternity.
Prof. Species kill is the founder of SMIB Worldwide, a creative organization from the Bijlmer. And from Smibanese University. He published it Smibanese dictionary 2.0 and Smibology. Each one, teach one.