SValentine’s Day is the celebration of lovers. And singles have always had some problems. This year, however, is the opportunity to take stock of one’s uncoupled situation and discover which, according to the most recent surveys conducted by Bumble, the women-first dating app, isn’t all that bad. In fact, it seems that the times when those who were not in a couple lived on February 14th with extreme discomfort and bitterness are long gone. Now there are many people who have discovered that they are more comfortable with themselves. Thus allowing you to experience any first appointments in a more conscious way.
Valentine’s Day and singles: how the approach of non-coupled people has changed
The times in which Valentine’s Day was experienced with torment and discomfort if you were not a couple seem to have finally passed away. Today there is in fact one greater awareness on the part of singles themselves, who live their “singleness” in a more serene way. This is confirmed by a survey conducted by Bumble, the women-first dating app, between 21-26 September 2023, which highlighted a new awareness on the part of singles.
What has changed? First of all, don’t feel bad about yourself if you’re not in a relationshipIndeed, many people like their single life, which is why they very often decide not to rush into meeting a new person. The survey has in fact shown that around half of the people registered with the app, 46% to be precise, have become very careful in choosing the person with whom to go out on a first date. An attitude held by 55% of women. What does this type of behavior demonstrate? As they explain from Bumble, it is the way of experiencing being alone has changed: you no longer try to meet or go out with a person to satisfy the social needs or desires of others.
2 out of 3 women are happy to be single
To be precise, two out of three women interviewed, 64%, say they be happy with your single life, so much so that you no longer see it as a moment of transition. This is what the app itself defines as “consciously single”, an attitude that “uncoupled” people have now gradually developed: «Societal pressure often pushes us to believe that finding a partner is the definitive key to fulfillment and completeness. Being single shouldn’t be seen as a state of limbo or an empty waiting room until the right person comes along. Instead it is a precious period of personal growth and exploration. It’s a time to delve into passionsuncompromising interests and ambitions” he explains Sofia Viscardi, writer and founder of the editorial channel Venti who collaborated with Bumble on the topic.
A new approach to being single
A new awareness that singles are proud of which has also had changes in the approach to dating. Self Previously, it was essential for singles to meet as many people as possiblehoping to find the “right” one with a huge emotional load on a mental level, today the approach to apps like Bumble has changed a lot. There is more focus on quality rather than quantityon understanding the person in front of you even before going out, on not organizing one appointment after another but on proceed more graduallya choice shared by 31% of people according to the survey results.
Never settle
The concept of being single has therefore fundamentally changed. It no longer implies feeling alone but be aware of the fact that you will not have to settle for the first person you meetthat you can take all your time to find the right person and that in the meantime you can have a “normal” life with interests and passions, thus cultivating your relationship with yourself.
A new relationship with yourself
Not only a change in approaching a hypothetical partner but also in relating to oneself: «Looking at the relationship with oneself is a point of observation that underlies self-centeredness and not self-reference or selfishness. It’s about learning something about yourself, about building a loving relationship with yourself thanks to others and with others. This perspective nourishes our emotional well-being and allows us to build authentic bonds, more corresponding to our expectations and characteristics” explains the Dr. Valeria Locati, psychotherapist and relationship expert on Bumblewho sees advantages in being single.
Valentine’s Day alone. So?
Being single and taking care of yourself is an added value. The ability to have managed to change people’s negative view of themselves to a perspective of self-knowledge and tranquility was a great step forward. The result was to gain greater mental well-being: «Being single becomes an opportunity to get to know each other and cultivate healthy self-love, mediating with the pressures of judgments from outside. The ability to be welcoming and curious about yourself is a key element for mental health and feeling good about yourself. Especially if you are single.”
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