Luniversity continues to be talked about. Unfortunately not as a place of culture, but as source of discomfort for many students. What happened to Adele, the student of IULM that she took her own life is not an isolated case. Many young people show discomfort, sometimes they scream it, risking not being heard anyway.
Young people according to ISTAT
According to the most recent data ISTATupdated to 2019, every year in Italy there are about 4,000 suicidesof which 13%, about 500it concerns the under 34. Of these 500, about 200 are under 24, mostly university students. To these data must also be added the weight of pandemic. Again according to Istat, in 2021 in Italy 220 thousand children between 14 and 19 years they declared themselves dissatisfied with their life and in a condition of poor psychological well-being. So what to do?
Psychological support in universities
The free psychological support is already a reality in many Italian universities. Rome Threefor example, provides “a service offered by the University and aimed at students who live situations of discomfort or psycho-physical discomfort with possible consequences on the cycle of studies”. Psychological help is also present in the universities of Bologna, Turin, Catania, Siena and at theUniversity of Campania. But the idea of minister of University and Research, Anna Maria Berniniis to organize a structured system of psychological support in all universities of Italy. But what can the family do?
Teenagers or adults?
“According to the law, a person at 18 years And adult to all effects. Yet the university period that’s just what you go through from teenagers to young adults. But very often for the social or family situation the boys reunite at the University Still childish. What blocks development? First of all the family and secondly the social structure. In the past, perhaps by organizing well, it was possible just leave the house become adults. Today this is considered impossible, as the family cord is nearly impossible to cut. Cord not only linked to affectivity, but also to the economic aspect», underlines la Doctor Marinella CozzolinoPsychotherapist, Clinical Sexologist and creator of Dimmy.itthe online psychologist 7 days a week.
Family pressure
«The high cost of living, the skyrocketing rents, the lack of services really pay off complicated any project of autonomy. The situation is different in northern Europe, where those who study even receive a salary. If society helped young people to be independent would fall by a lot parental pressure. When there is no economic autonomy in many families it becomes frequent a kind of blackmail: “I’ll pay for your studies then I tell you what you need to study and what you can and cannot do», continues the expert.
Educate to feel your own desires
«Indulge your wishes of the boys and recognize them as valid. This is the fundamental role of the family. Together with the school he has the task of listen without judgement. Yet how often do parents begin with “If I were you”. But they are not “in me”. It is necessary give freedombut not overnightand educate a hear what they want. Recognize the children’s resources, stimulate them and show them to them too and then encourage them simply by saying: “How good you are at doing this”», suggests Dr. Cozzolino.
Because kids aren’t independent
“The structure of the society keeps the boys dependent. Suffice it to say that in the fifth year of high school to go to the bathroom they have to raise their hand to ask permission or obtain parental authorization to have their ear pierced for the third time. AND a system that doesn’t work: with what autonomy will they be able to make their choices if they are not used to the responsibility of the choice? This is why already having to decide on the faculty puts the kids in crisis. But become adults It means take responsibility for these choices and know set aside the family», concludes the expert.
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