In his new biography, Jukka Hildén talks openly about his wife’s tough childhood.
Matti Matikainen
Jukka Hildén, 42, says in his biography Jukka Hildén – Legacy of pain (Johnny Kniga), what a common sky with the current wife Chachi26, has been with until now.
The couple’s love story is not conventional, especially because Jukka is from Finland and Chachi is from Texas. In the book, Jukka says that the couple’s 16-year age difference and cultural differences were very difficult for Chachi’s family to understand.
Wife’s difficult childhood
In his book, Jukka talks openly about Chachi’s difficult childhood and youth. He says that there was, among other things, mental and physical violence in his wife’s family.
According to the book, Chachi moved away from home at the age of 15 and started to build his own life. The book also talks about problematic work patterns, as Chachi’s mother and sister acted as his managers when he was a minor. Chachi has made her career as a dancer all over America.
At some point, the sister took the majority of Chachi’s fees. All the apartments and cars bought with the money Chachi earned were in the sister’s name because Chachi was a minor. When Chachi turned 18, he said he would change managers. Sister and her boyfriend beat up Chachi. And cleared the accounts. But that was the beginning of the long road to freedom. The hardships Chachi went through and how he managed to stay sane and positive made a big impression on me.
Atte Kajova
Jukka and Chachi experienced a relationship crisis after their first year together. Jukka’s several burnouts and divorce ex-spouse Outi Haapasalmi had taken him to the bottom. For his part, Chachi’s difficult family background made it difficult for the couple from the beginning, and they even thought about divorce.
Not in between
In the book, Jukka also recalls his meetings with Chachi’s family. He says that the family talked badly about him. In addition to this, the family’s visits to Finland have caused, according to the book, “only terrible and unnecessary drama”, as a result of which they have not seen each other anymore.
I had heard from Chachi what his family was like, but I also experienced it myself. The pressure went to personal matters and so far that when Chachi got pregnant for the first time, the family started hinting about the possibility of an abortion.
Of course, the family members have behaved towards Chachi in the most horrible way, over the years. My protective instinct always goes to red when we are near them. Nothing can be done. And because of this, we are no longer dealing with Chachi’s family. The gaps are over if they don’t change their behavior.
In the book, Jukka says that the problems in the relationship are now behind them, because they have learned to listen and talk to each other. According to Juka, Chachi has especially brought grace and sensitivity to her life. The book states that they want to be “together for the rest of their lives”.
The italicized passages are from the book Jukka Hildén – The Legacy of Pain (Johnny Kniga) written by Jani Niipola, which will be published on October 6.