Paula’s pop week: Pregnancy-Vibes in pop culture

Leev Lück,

Subject simultaneities! The world is ruled by people who want to break beautiful life – and in front of my door there are mice, hippies, an elk (?) And a few clowns and heads a sparkling wine – Alaaf!

But: Apart from daily up -to -date, the state of the world and events on your own doorstep, the good old shearing, which are designed in your own biography or are said to be created.

For example, I am 35 years old, read female, so to speak, and is therefore repeatedly encouraged to deal with the topic of children’s wars because people assume that this is particularly concerned with at this age, including people who prepare pop culture.

The question of the “children’s war” usually seems to be synonymous with the question “How do you find children?” Because people still believe that people with uterus who like the children should also get which and which who don’t get any, although they could not like them. In men, the decision is whether they accept children with women whether they get them.

Why I talk about it: I was in the film “We live in time” with Florence Pugh and Andrew Garfield. Both great actors, the story is nice – it is simply an intimate, authentic love story from start to finish.

However, my girlfriend and I went out of the film and felt totally fooled. It was like this: After a great approach of the protagonists Almut and Tobias, the two argued on the child question. She didn’t want any, he did. So far, so normal. But then something happened that happens too often in films and series: it changes her opinion. And not just that, but because of higher circumstances, in this case through cancer, precise ovarian cancer. It decides to keep an ovary to get a child (despite the fact that this is dangerous for her!). She gets it, life fits (magically you can also afford a nice house in the countryside with the child), the cancer breaks out again, she dies.

Of course you can tell that you can tell everything, only you almost never tell it like this: a woman doesn’t want a child and doesn’t get a child, her partner is okay with it because he wants to be with the woman and the two take care of other wise people or just not.

A few days earlier, I had also seen the last season of the single woman-in-new-york search after-love and self-fulfillment series “Harlem” and was already full in this regard.

Camille (Meagan Good) does not want a child for the first two seasons, her great love even breaks. Then it means she can’t get children. Season 3, however, begins with getting pregnant and you think: Well, then she won’t get it, what? She doesn’t want it. ” Pust cake!

The stories of pregnancies and abrasions do not run off. Because of this higher power, Camille decides to continue pregnancy. Somehow it is a miracle, she thought she couldn’t. In addition, she then depends that she only didn’t want children because of her trauma from her own childhood. There must always be drifting reasons for renegade.

Of course there is something like that, but can we please get a single woman who is not portrayed like an undecided girl who only needs to be led to the right path? Can we get women who are not circling or non -aldering their lives?

They existed about once in the mainstream pop culture. In the form of Cristina Yang from “Grey’s Anatomy” (see season 8, episode 1). she will Pregnant from your partner Owenhe freaked out when she wants a demolition even though he knows her attitude.

And only that is the loss for them: Your partner is not ready to love her as she is. Her friend Meredith does not react as solidarity as Cristina wants, because she wants to weigh, negotiate, but Cristina just doesn’t want to be a mother. She also says that she likes children, after all, she also helps Meredith with education, but she doesn’t want to get any. Finished off. She says it, she does it, the demolition itself is not a big deal.

Just because you have a uterus, you don’t have to have a relationship with it, you really shouldn’t forget that. When I was in front of a demolition myself, I had it all in my head: looking at the distance, creating pro-contra lists, already feeling “it”, make a huge life-decisive question of looking at children on the street longer, considering higher powers, dark hospital corridors, convicts, around the last minute, change, possible remorse and so on. Today I know that very few things came out of me intuitively, but were pictures from pop culture. I didn’t want a child, I broke off the option on a child (don’t forget: Not every pregnancy leads to a child, especially in such an early stage, it is just unsure), it wasn’t that much more.

You can change your mind at any time, as with everything in life, for example, it is great that more and more women can (can) get children later, that they will do so by their side even without a man and so on. But we also urgently need the stories about women who just don’t want to give birth. And of course, like most real women, they “still” take care of other people enough. Just like in “How I Met Your Mother”: Robyn does not want to get children, but cannot get any, but participates in the upbringing of the children of her friends, at the same time she lives her life as she wants and has five dogs.

“I need some to get it”, beg Cristina Meredith in “Grey’s Anatomy” and that’s it. Please just raft it.

“Grey’s Anatomy” really raffles it for a while. The topics of children and abortions are often not accommodated there as anywhere else, always politically and diverse in their narrative. Especially after Roe Versus Wade was lifted, there were some episodes that dealt with it. In some cases, it is really pedagogical – if politics fails, cultural products probably have to go and people have to explain their rights, their bodies and their possibilities.

The series “Maude” had already an episode on the subject of abortion in 1972, i.e. exactly in the time when Roe versus Wade was adopted. There is also a lot to be informed there, by the way also on the subject of vasectomy (in general the male role is also told very well). Sure, the relationship to age is very strange from today’s perspective – and a lot of others, but you really can’t believe that it was over 50 years ago – and where we are partly again today.