FHyducia, respect, attention to the needs and times of individual children. You have to start from here to insert your child in the best way to the nursery school. But It is not always easy. It is a delicate and important passage, for parents and children. I woman He asked for advice from Dafne Guida, Psychopedagogist and President of the Social Cooperative Stripes (acronym for study, research, intervention, extracurricular pedagogy), which manages 35 nursery schools in Lombardy and organizes for August 28 the Webinar Sos Installment (for info and registrations EducaPedagogia.it).
“The setting is fundamental. In Italy it generally provides for two weeks: The first day is an hour together, the parent plays with the child. In the second the baby sees the parent close but does not interact with him, while the progressive removal begins from the third. At the end of the first week we started to make the child eat the nest, in the second you feel the last step, namely – after welcome, game and lunch – the bed. In Sweden these passages are made in three days, We are trying to shorten the times a little, but the two weeks model is the one that works best, because in the second the necessary consolidation is made ».
But first to bring the child to the nest, parents and staff must confront each other and know each other. “Dad and mom must be involved, their role is fundamental because they are the bridge between the house and the nest: They tell the son, the educators explain the structure and how the setting is articulated. It is important that this meeting goes for the best, in the interest of the youngest ».
Bamini play in one of the nursery schools of the Stripes Social Cooperative.
But what should parents take into account? Here are the 10 tips for mothers and dadssuggested by Dafne Guida.
1 triangulation of trust. We must give the child the time and way of binding to the educators, and it is up to adults to help him. If he sees that dad and mom smile at the educators, the child will more easily rely on these people who, for him, at the beginning, are foreign.
2 the transition object. Let him take a puppet, a cover, a music box from home. The objects are relational mediators, and reassure the child.
3 to each his time. Each child has his time to settle down. There are those who cry immediately, to the first removal of the parents. Whoever cries then and who never cries. Each path must be customized.
4 Emotions count. When you go home, name the emotions. Ask the little one (if he already knows how to speak): have you been happy? Have you been afraid, joy? What was the most beautiful and ugliest moment of the day?
5 Create small rituals. Everything that the child manages to predict, worries him less. So it is important that, at the time of greeting, we always behave in the same way, with basins, hugs, “magical” words repeated.
6 organize yourself The experience of the nest involves the whole family: the brothers, the work of mom and dad, the grandparents. You have to know how to organize in advance and contact educators with confidence: they are professionals, they have studied how to accompany parents to detachment. They will be able to advise you better.
7 Return to old habits. During the holidays, did the times and rules skip? Upon returning, it is good to start again immediately with the old daily habits.
8 No stress. During the setting, avoid scrutiny the child with evenings away from home. If he sleeps badly, he will struggle to face the already difficult task of socialization.
9 regular times. It is important that his mother or dad in charge of the setting holds to the promises: he will always or her always go and get the child, and always at the same times.
10 Move the other news further. If you have to introduce a new element in weaning, or if you plan to remove the diaper or get used to the child to fall asleep alone, do not do it in the period of the nest. Too many novelties all together are not good, the little one does not make it.