Once upon a time there was a young woman who planned her days, her weeks, who projected in the long term and when it came to making decisions she always had a plan A, a plan B and a plan C.
That young woman was me! That’s how structured I was until disability came into my life and broke my structures.
This is how I started my TEDx talk in October. talking about the B side of motherhood crossed by disability, trying to bring a message to those who do not live this reality, and accompanying those who do.
Along the way I came across various reflections from those who listened to me, among them, that we do not have control of anything, or that we have control of little, and it is up to us to adapt to the multiple situations that life presents to us.
In general, people tend to make plans and live with the false certainty that everything will happen as planned, but life is full of uncertainty, and the only certainty is that we are all going to die. Yes, that strong.
The mere idea of thinking about death overwhelms us all, generates fear and anxiety, but… What happens if instead of the most extreme thing happening to us, an event happens to us that breaks our structures, changes our plans, and forces us to redesign our lives, to live in a different way than we imagined?
Are we prepared? Do we have a plan for this?
Those of us who are dedicated to financial planning take care of that. To advise and provide tools to people, which allow them to have a contingency plan for unforeseen events. As? Thinking about what to do in the face of certain events, protecting not only those we love, but also ourselves. Because this is what PREVENT is all about.
To do this, we need to have uncomfortable conversations that take us out of our comfort zone, that invite us to imagine different scenarios, the loved ones and the unloved ones, and, based on this, design alternatives that fit our needs and possibilities.
Those of us who were affected by the disability of a loved one know that life is full of uncertainty, and we learn to live day by day, having to enjoy TODAY, even if tomorrow always brings us anxiety.
In my case, to avoid getting carried away by anxiety, I decided to connect with the present, being clear that for those things that worried me, there were solutions, tools, and supports. There are no certainties about what will happen, but for the various scenarios, there are alternatives.
Since death is the only certainty, there is a question that echoes in the head of everyone who has someone in their care: what will happen when I am gone?
For that question, those of us who are dedicated to family planning have answers, we have appropriate tools for each situation.
The objective is to be able to calm a concern of many, bring peace of mind, provide solutions, so that the uncertain future stops tormenting and the present can be enjoyed.
For a long time, the Financial Family Planning Advisor (or insurance salesperson, as it has been called) has had a bad reputation, given that there is still no financial education in our country. Today it is a topic that is talked about a little more; many have entered this world looking for alternatives, proposals; others still remain reticent.
The wonderful thing about this activity is that in the face of an unwanted event, when someone has been able to take the necessary precautions, in the midst of painful situations, economic matters cease to be the problem. And it is possible to take care of the emotional, of building life, knowing that someone before took care of the material.
Leaving aside structures, but having Plan A and B for the various scenarios that may arise, being forward-thinking, but at the same time flexible to adapt to the vicissitudes of life, knowing that we do not have control of everything, is the key to surf the waves of this journey called life.
Cintia Manla
@mandolacin
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