While half of the Lo Spazio club room still drinks coffee, the other is already at the spray. So also Lauren Mayberry (Chvrches). The Scottish drinks Aperol while talking about Sunday creep and cat love-after all, she has to continue playing a support gig for London Grammar.
You showed the Aperol Spritz offer directly when you go in. Why the summer drink for the not yet super warm season?
Lauren Mayberry: I would keep against it and say that it is a solemn drink and not limited to summer. I also need something refreshing. Otherwise I would order a beer, but then I would have to pee all the time and that’s not a good thing if you have to appear later.
Then let’s initiate with the Aperol, cheers!
I always say slàinte.
Slàinte! Is such a drink before the show a kind of ritual?
For some band members – they hit a cocktail before the concert. I usually reject this, because otherwise I don’t have the right mindset for an appearance. One drink too much and my fears are reinforced.
What do you mean by that?
My partner calls it “Sunday scary”. It is now not only at the end of the week, but also, for example, if I drank a lot the evening before. Then I make myself enormous
Care for. I think about death and the end of the world. I think at extreme moments that I’m a piece of shit, all hate and leave me. When it comes to it, my partner tells me mantra -like: ‘You are a good person. You’re nice.’
How else do you get out of the spiral?
I make sure what kind of alcohol I drink. Gin makes me very emotional. When I drink Gin Tonic and someone says something nice, I also start crying. And the stuff is so cute that I can drink it like this. So I usually prefer to choose a dirty martini. It does not happen that I tip it away on a train – he is far too special and spicy. I want to enjoy that very consciously.
Meet and toast with friend: Inside – do you get it organized?
When I had reached the 28, it started that there was slowly getting married around me with getting married, wars and pulling out. Things changed. But that’s okay, you just have to plan with more lead. And I’m a very organized person. Precisely because I’m traveling a lot, I have to be anyway. I struggle that we don’t lose sight of each other and that I also celebrate the less traditional celebrations with them. So when my girlfriend finds a new apartment as a single mother, it will be initiated extensively.
What do you think: What property of you would your friends: highlight on the inside?
I hope you find me empathetic. I never forget a birthday. When I’m on the go, I send small gifts by post. When my girlfriend recently had a stupid time because she had to work too much and did not floop in the relationship, I sent her flowers and a gift basket because it should make her day more beautiful. I don’t know a man who does something like that for his buddy. And even if I have the feeling that men are happy to be preserved, they do not come up with the idea of replying it in this way.
Here in the club room we were also given a gift. There are olives that you don’t touch at all. I distribute kernels everywhere, bows …
Well, I have my olive story there … I was an appointment with a friend in a restaurant and he was there much earlier than I was. When I arrived, I picked up directly when I saw the little things on the table because I thought it was nuts. He just shouted “Neiiiiinnn !!!” I almost ate his olive remains … I’ve been disgusting a bit since then.
With who would you like to drink something – dead or alive – and exchange ideas about everything?
With Dolly Parton you would have a good time and many good stories. It works wisely. Speaking of wise: I would also get Zadie Smith, because whenever I feel creatively stuck, I read an interview with her and internalize what she says about writing. And Rihanna would certainly be a great addition to the round, right?
Sure, a complete round of women.
I had had enough evenings in the past where men wanted to explain things to me and were not really interested in a real conversation with me. I don’t feel like it. I have now learned the difference what it means, when someone talks to me and when someone only talks to me. At most, I get on my cats. (laughs)
For example, what if you leave a party but don’t want to be rude?
In the past I spent a lot of time to think about how I could stay in environments from which I wanted to get out. I now spend my thirties more to see when it is better to set limits. So if I want to withdraw from a bar situation, I simply say: “Was a great time, thank you, have a good night!” Then I go. But it is clear that women are used to leaving a situation as safe and gently as possible so that they don’t make something worse. It feels like kicking in an animal instinct if you only think about how to get out of something so that there is no danger.
I have the feeling that you have a clear understanding of yourself. It is difficult to understand why your solo album is also about grief to grow up.
In general, I feel happier and safer than years ago, yes. But with the growing up, I also had to learn to let go. I only stick to any kind of relationship – whether romantic or friendly. This goes hand in hand that I romanticize people as something they are not. It cost me a lot of time to see that. This also goes hand in hand with grief that friendships and even bands are not the way I imagined at 18. I had always believed that every group in which I would be how the “Goonies” is and all best friends are. And even if I want to stick to it, it won’t be true. The only constant is change, I learned that.
More about Lauren Mayberry
The 37-year-old Lauren Mayberry Could be a singer and songWriter von Chvrches a name make. The electropopop band gives it since 2011 – reason enough For the Scottish multi -instrumsTalist, now as a soloTo further try out artist. On December 6th, 2024 Under your own name that Debut album Vicious Creature, on which they topics such as sexuality, Empowerment and adultsnegotiated.