“A terrible bear service for a child,” says Supernanny Pia Penttala

One risk time in families is now at hand, knows Supernanny Finland program expert and child protection professional Pia Penttala.

– There’s a terrible disservice to her child, Penttala snarls.

Of course, it is a summer vacation and a circadian rhythm. The idea of ​​an adult waiting for a summer vacation is that we are in the summer and nothing has to be done, but the life of a family with children with children with children does not work, Pia Penttala recalls.

– The adult must be a mirror for the child. You can’t just land in bed all summer long. For a teenager, it is important to see that the circadian rhythm does not change drastically.

If a schoolboy is watching a summer vacation for night and sleeping for days, school fitness is lost in August. Repairing a young person’s daily rhythm can then be very difficult.

According to Penttala, the lack of routines for a smaller child is sensitive to anger and anxiety.

– The importance of routines is often underestimated, but their lack can mean a risk of a child’s growth and development.

Penttala urges you to plan your summer vacation with the kids a lot in advance and even make an accurate weekly program. A good holiday day begins with the child cheating on the bed and opens the curtains. A good holiday day also includes a regular rhythm: breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner and evening meal. The goods are kept in place to find them.

– It is a good idea for schoolchildren to do homework and, for example, the Fillar Passport can encourage you to move, Penttala says.

“Insanely worrying”

Pia Penttala knows Finnish families with children five Supernanny Finland -Based on the season and his or her everyday work as a child protection professional. Penttala is a specialist psychotherapist.

In the latest season, the 5th season, Penttalan has surprised me how difficult it is for families to get help at the moment and how long waiting for help can be.

– There were indications of it last season. The difficulty of getting help is insanely worrying and sad, he says.

Another worrying change in families with children is, in Penttala’s opinion, an increase in inequality. Many times poverty and fatigue go hand in hand.

– Fatigue is reflected in the fact that the roles of children and parents are confused. Routines can disappear completely and result in chaos when no one in the family knows how the day goes.

The third worrying change is the reduced condition of children and young people.

– I see children with really poor basic condition and have such poor motor skills that it already affects self -esteem. Here is a montage that has already been awakened, but inequality is strongly reflected in the movement of children.

Some parents are able to shell out children and their own hobbies and can show a model for exercise, but not everyone.

The world is closer

As a positive development, Penttala sees the strengthening of neighborhood relationships and broadening the world in the lives of families with children.

– For today’s children, the world is smaller than before, children get to know different cultures and there are words about other languages ​​in the language of children.

Penttala also sees the way of today’s parents to search for information and reflect on their own parenting. According to Penttala, today’s parents are also genuinely new, as the now growing generation is the first generation growing with digital devices.

– We already know that excessive cellphone use is harmful and in 20 years we know more about how devices will affect children’s development and maybe something that is done now feels funny. The situation must also be merciful, Penttala ponders.

However, the boredom must not be handled by equipment comfort. For example, it is better for a child to hang the laundry together with the parent and learn how to do homework than to watch the phone when a parent hangs the laundry. When a child complains of the phone, it is up to the parent to hold on to the boundaries.

– The parent has to keep the power to himself, for the child remains safe. The child is unable to use power properly. The one who says the child does not change life is really wrong.

Surprisingly difficult spacing

Supernanny Penttala gets more and more questions from grandparents, and the relationship between parents and grandparents of families with children seems to be a hotter potato, according to Penttala.

– I hear surprisingly much about the fact that the intervals are difficult. Of course, parents determine the things of the families. It is worth talking about the contradictions as directly and honestly as possible, Penttala advises.

For a good grandparent, he spends time with his grandchild and shows a model of the life of a different generation of people. A grandparent brings a relaxed adulthood to a child’s life. A grandparent cannot be used to have a severe breeding responsibility, for example, for the breeding of a child with a behavioral disorder.