THEand women are becoming living “red flags”? That is, they are taking on all those typically male attitudes as revenge that they have always criticized and contested? Apparently yes. At least according to the hashtag #WomenInMaleDominatedFields, which highlights a trend that is becoming popular on social media, particularly TikTok. But, highly questionable attitudes aside, what is really behind this trend?
Social trend, #WomenInMaleDominatedFields is all the rage on TikTok. What is it about?
Do they (i.e. men) ghost you? And you ghost them! Do they make you feel insecure? And you do the same. Do they cheat? You do it first. Do they explain to you that certain attitudes of yours make them feel wrong? And you reply “That’s how I am!”. These are just some of the examples of attitudes that can be read if you follow the hashtag #WomenInMaleDominatedFields, a popular trend on social media, particularly TikTok.
Phenomenon that is exploding on social media, it’s about women who have decided to behave, more or less ironically, like men do. It all started when last spring on A comment that was repeated when, on another occasion, a user wrote it in front of the story of a woman who, despite already being married, got married again to another man. From here, some creators took the opportunity and the videos, and above all the views, increased dramatically. Among the last? In one video, a girl says that he wrote her a “papyrus” to explain how he feels and she responded with a dry “I don’t know what you want me to tell you right now”. Result? 6 million views and 1 million likes in just three days. But what is happening?
Social trend, #WomenInMaleDominatedFields is all the rage on TikTok (Getty Images)
Protest movement or irony?
How to interpret this trend? Women are really starting to change their attitude towards mensometimes even becoming rude and manipulative, or is it more of an ironic protest? «It’s a way to turn real life on its head, at least for a few seconds. Instead of feeling like victims, women use irony not only to highlight the gap between expectations and harsh reality in which we sometimes encounter the insidious world of contemporary dating, but also new awareness” he explains Carolina Traverso, psychologist, psychotherapist and expert in couple relationships.
In other words, women are adopting typically masculine behaviors to underline how wrong these attitudes are and can hurt the other person. It’s sort of teasing that highlights the inability that some men they have to tune into the emotions of the person in front of them.
But, in addition to the phenomenon itself, the expert highlights that what really matters to these videos is the reaction that other users have. And it’s one of relief. In fact, we realize that we are not alone to have received certain answers or to have suffered a certain behavior: «We realize we are not alone and we stop believing that, if the other person behaved in a certain way, for example by devaluing himself or turning away when we needed his support or comparison, then it must have been our fault.”
Learn not to give importance to certain men
Another message that this trend wants to pass is also that of not giving importance to certain men if they behave in certain ways: «It highlights the importance of not giving too much weight to people who are not emotionally available or who do not share some of our fundamental values, thus communicating that it is better to be alone, perhaps having a couple of laughs with friends and friends rather that in compromise relationships that make us suffer or in situationship which take us nowhere and which, on the contrary, have the only effect of making us feel increasingly inadequate.”
A trend which, however, must also be taken with a grain of salt. As the expert explains, the risk otherwise is that of trivializing and generalising. First of all why these behaviors can be present in all coupleseven in homosexual ones, and therefore why certain toxic and immature attitudes can be held by everyonenot only by men but also by women. The risk therefore is that of thinking that one should never question oneself and that, regardless, one is right, even when this is not the case.
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