Being a child seems to be something that is experienced spontaneously: allowing oneself to play, enjoy, and at the same time face those fears that “grow up” produces. But what in the eyes of adults seems to be so simple, for children it is not so simple. Playing is the most serious and important thing in the world, it enables the apprehension of life events from the game and fantasy.
Sometimes, this state of fantasy is interrupted by the cruel socio-economic reality of some families, since their basic needs are not covered.
Despite these situations, the children make their way, each of them being unique and different.
It is very important to accompany them in their growth, with the first rules that allow the formation of habits. Those in charge of this fundamental task are the responsible adults: dad and mom at home or those who are covering that function, and the teachers at school.
This is a task that at first seems simple, but when it comes to carrying it out, it is not so:
- Say NO at the right time, and hold that NO despite your whims, without the need for physical or verbal violence.
- Think of limits as frameworks that regulate relationships that include the child and the adults involved. Regulatory frameworks that establish conditions for something to be done.
- Contain and hug a child when he is overflowing emotionally.
Who holds?
The functions of being a father and being a mother, is to be able to support children in their growth.
What happens when fathers and mothers cannot sustain themselves by their own life stories?
How to be a father and a mother, when many times the parents of today’s adults did not fulfill their role?
Questions that lead to try as a challenge the possibility that the new will come and interrupt a serial repetition.
Thus, it could be thought that a state is reached in which both children and adults want what they do not have: “children become adults to leave behind the problems and minor things of a childhood that feels difficult, and parents are no longer adults and become children again to get rid of the elders of being adults, who feel unbearable and insurmountable”.
Text: Lic Germán Rothstein
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