You don’t know what’s going to come
“You can’t plan how life goes in advance,” says Sandra. “For example, I got to know Jørgen on our old work. We both worked in the financial department and I found him really annoying. He was so popular with everyone. I am a bit quieter.
Only when he left after a reorganization and I saw him in another setting, I thought: actually he is pretty nice. He received a cinema voucher for his farewell and invited me to come along. And from then on we got to know each other better, since then we have been together for 24 years. “
“It went wrong and we lost around fifty thousand euros.” © Own image
“That’s why I always say: you don’t know how things are going to go. Being together, your family life … things happen just. We have certainly had a number of lows in the past. At those moments it is important that you can find your partner. You have to know what you have and support each other – even if things are not going well.”
Low
“The toughest period came into our relationship when I made a financial mistake. We were always good at saving, but then an investment came by that was too good to be true … And that was. It was wrong and lost around the fifty thousand euros.”
“We don’t want to be the parents who only come to cut the meat on Sunday.” © Own image
“How could this happen to me? My whole work revolves around finances and money matters, I followed so many good training courses in this area and this money worries happened to me. Our daughter was still very small at that time, so I also wanted to spend enough time with her. That made me work less. It was a very stressful period. You suddenly think of Luiers if you should spend it.”
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“Jørgen then took over financially and started working more, while I was at home with the children. But when I had everything back on track and experienced less stress, the moment I also wanted to work again and earned money. Only … if you both suddenly work full -time, you hardly see your children. And we didn’t want that either.”
New division of roles
“This period ensured that we had to look at everything again. We consciously went to look at what we find important and what we want. Only then did the questions come: how do we give these wishes with money? Who deserves what and how do we distribute the money?
That was quite difficult, because I have the idea that people find it easier to talk about sex than about money. Yet it is an important part, because if we had not started that conversation, we lived past each other and the relationship would probably have broken. ”
“We get up at 5:14 am every morning before the children are awake.” © Own image
“We didn’t let that happen. Jørgen has since started doing more in the household and he now works part -time as a sports masseur and personal trainer. It is his own company, so he can plan his customers flexibly at times when the children do not have to be picked up.
In addition, we have someone for cleaning, because I want us to be really available to the children in our spare time. We don’t want to be the parents who only come to cut the meat on Sunday. “
Window of Opportunity
“In addition to the time we want to spend with our children, we want that for ourselves too. We are at 5:14 am every morning. Fourteen, because one plus four is five and then you have five-five … we love figures, haha. But then our day starts. It’s really ours Window of Opportunitybefore the children are awake. We then exercise together, he five times a week, I usually four. Then the entire tune starts: having breakfast, waking up children and starting the day. ”
“Precisely because it happened to me, while I am in finances, I want to help other people and I see that there really needs to be talked about money.” © Own image
“In the evening, when they go to bed, we always ask what their day was like. That’s how we talk about the things that go well and we teach them a lot about life. We are already trying to give them how to handle money. When we go on vacation, they have also saved a little so that they can buy something: you can only spend one euro once.”
Shame
“Although I was ashamed for the mistakes I made for a long time, the experience also brought me a lot. It took a while before I started my book Wealthy Wise Woman About the importance of grip on your money and how to start the conversation with your partner. A man is not a financial plan, so you must ensure that you always continue to see each other’s wishes and needs. Precisely because it happened to me, while I am in finances, I want to help other people and I see that there really needs to be talked about money. ”
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