Last February my husband Mark left. The children were devastated. Me too, because he turned out to have another for years. Someone from the gym. Everyone chose my side and the children were angry with their father. They didn’t want to go to him in the first months, purely because they blamed him for our break. Anyway, they had to do at some point, he was their father anyway.
Once his best friend
On one of the first evenings without my daughters I was bored and I also felt sorry for myself. So I grabbed my phone and called on a whimer Rogier, Mark’s witness at our marriage. He was once his best friend, but after an Akkefietje they were lost sight of each other. A pity, because I always got along very well with him. I told about the divorce, he about his life as a bachelor and before I knew it I had asked him to come and have a drink.
‘My grandchildren are dog -brutal’
That evening he stood on the sidewalk. Then he told that ‘the Akkefietje’ had turned around me; During a friends outing to Antwerp, Mark had laid it out with a Belgian Grietje and he had said something about it.
That evening nothing happened between us, but in the following weeks we kept in touch and our messages and telephone calls became more and more sultry. On the weekend that the children were with their father again, I went to Rogier and there the flame hit the pan. It was delicious.
Regret
When Mark came to bring the children again, he said I looked good. Yes, I thought that myself. I still shone sex with Rogier. But of course I didn’t say that. I also kept my mouth shut against my children. They were still completely in mourning mode. And as long as it wasn’t serious between me and Rogier, I would keep him for myself.
In the intervening period I really fell in love. He is so much nicer than Mark in everything. I was about to say that we have a relationship when my oldest daughter said, “I think Dad is sorry.” And then she told that he is increasingly having a fight with that girl of his. A few weeks later he called me: he wanted to talk to me again. Maybe he had left too quickly, we should have tried relationship therapy first. Whether I was open to that. “No,” I said, “too much happened.”
Enjoy another
Now he is constantly trying to win me again. And he uses the children for that. They now also insist to do more together. And how nice dad is nowadays and that he misses me so much. That I just have to go on holiday to Biarritz with dad. Not long after, Mark stood on the sidewalk. Whether I didn’t want to go to France. If only for the children …
“I don’t trust my husband on his Papadag and that’s why I spy him with the baby monitor”
I said I needed time to think and put everything in a row. That I had booked a retreat to Bali to come all the way to myself. He understood that, he said guilty. But nice that I secretly cruise with my new love for two weeks. In my heart I already know that I will never go back to him, but I am still waiting to drop with that bomb. Now it’s my turn to enjoy someone else! ”
This section is based on true stories. Names are fictitious.
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