We live in separate houses, and it’s the best, ”he confessed Damián de Santo to Rodrigo Lussich in “Espectáculo partners” in 2023. In the remembered cycle of El Trece, the actor announced what his formula was to maintain his sentimental link with the dancer Vanina Bilousrelationship that still lasts more than 23 years ago. “It was a good decision that we made. Many things are chatted in a 23 -year -old couple, there is already infinite confidence, and they were things we were talking about and we tried to be better,” he concluded.
The actor is considered the most famous and visible face of a trend that is being strengthened in the country. THE CONCEPT LAT, abbreviation for “Living Apart Together”it is a term that refers to couples that maintain an intimate relationship, but choose to live in different houses, without living in the same home. A model that several Hollywood stars began with their private lives, and that international media spread as a scoop. What many thought it would be just an extravagance frivolous or a passenger fashion, they never considered that time would demonstrate that the validity of that lifestyle remains intact and even promotes.
Gwyneth Paltrow He revealed in The Sunday Times that he only lives with his partner, Brad Foulchuk, For four days a week, while the rest of the time sleeps in a house next to it. The actress of “Shakespeare in Love” He said that this decision was made by the need to maintain emotion in the couple. “If you go out of a long relationship and get to understand what was wrong with you the first time, the second time or the third you will find yourself prepared to do things in a different way,” the artist assured the British newspaper.
Other international luminaires also joined the Latin proposal with their respective husbands or couples. In the exclusive payroll are cinema icons as Julia Roberts, next to her husband Daniel Mod, and also the creator and protagonist of “Sex and The City” and “And Just like that,” Sarah Jessica Parkerwith the actor Matthew Broderick. On the other hand, not only the cases of celebrities who participate in this curious marital coexistence are found in the entertainment world.
The link of living as a couple in separate houses also came to the sport with a renowned technical director of Soccer. Pep Guardiola He maintained a Latin relationship in recent years with businesswoman Cristina Serra. The Manchester City coach and his wife tried to continue lighting the conjugal flame in this way, after thirty years of marriage. Unfortunately, the proposal did not have a good ending and, in strict confidentiality, the separation was announced, at the beginning of this year.
The historical ones. Although the phenomenon seems current, the truth is that there were couples of celebrities who already carried out it almost a decade before spreading, even in the local show. The singer Patricia Sosa and the record producer Oscar Eduardo Mediavilla They exceeded the four decades of romance and, according to them, most of them without living under the same roof. “Living in separate houses is giving all the freedom of the world to the other. For me it is ideal. Ours is such a relaxed, love, companionship.
In dialogue with news, the psychologist Anabella Serventi He explained: “This decision can decrease the stress load in the couple by preserving the particular way of carrying out the tasks of the daily life of each member. If the times and occupations are divergent, for example, if anyone is studying or working on a personal project that requires time of concentration and silence that finds it difficult to find in a shared house.”
“This can be discussed from one’s need, it is not the same to say ‘I need you to leave the house’ to take over and express it in terms of the type ‘I am needing to try something different’. Communication is key because this type of changes in an established couple can awaken insecurities with respect to love and commitment.” In addition, the specialist stressed: “The links are a daily construction, they require work and attention, communication is one of the fundamental aspects in the couple.”
The LAT phenomenon also has its inverse modality: separate couples that must live under the same roof. Many carry it forward so that both can remain available for their children full. Other couples, on the other hand, for economic reasons, unable to solve any of them a different residence. This premise served for the film plot “The War of the Roses”starring Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner. In this comedy of 1989, a marriage in the process of divorce coexists in the same home, making life impossible to each other until the tragic final. Although in the film it is fictionalized, taking it to the extreme, the truth is that, at present, this style of coexistence is more common than it seems.
On this, Serventi considered: “Let us think that a different paths of relationship are played in a couple: one implies the sexual and affective and another makes the conjugal society. It can end the sex-affective bond, but respect the conjugal society and rearrange to a prudential time in terms of material goods and tasks such as the care of children.”
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