On Tuesday evening, a man laid several polaroids of his penis on the car windows of women at Westerparklaan in Breda. The 33-year-old Anne* saw the man sitting in his car and called in the police. Sending a Dickpic unsolicited is punishable. Why men do it anyway, according to sexologist Yuri Ohlrichs has several reasons. “They assume themselves. If they got an intimate photo, they wouldn’t mind,” he says.
Anne looked up on Tuesday evening when after a sports lesson she found a photo of an erection between the rubbers of her side window. At that moment a man was looking at her in a car. When she was reporting to the gym, several women appeared to have received a Dickpic on their car window without being asked.
Anyone who thinks that unsolicited photos only end up with women via social media are wrong. “In the past, in response to a personals advertisement in the newspaper, women already received a photo of an erection,” says Ohlrichs from the Dutch Scientific Association for Sexology.
“Inability to make clear what they want.”
Why men do that has several reasons according to him. “It is often a lack of communication skills and an inability to make clear what they want from a woman,” he says.
According to the sexologist, some men have to learn how to properly share their desires with women. “Men and boys often go out of themselves. If they received an intimate photo, they would not mind. That makes it difficult to move into what a woman experiences when she receives such a photo,” says Ohlrichs.
In addition, men sometimes think that women are really waiting in a photo of a stiff penis. “They see an erection as a sign of their masculinity.”
Yet the unsolicited sending of a Dickpic is not always to let you know that you find someone attractive. “It may also be that they want to humiliate or shock women and provoke a reaction.” Look what I do. I don’t care. ” Almost as a kind of power game, “says Ohlrichs.
“It can be very intimidating.”
Receiving an unsolicited Dickpic can have a major impact on women, the sexologist knows. “It can be very intimidating. It is good to make it immediately clear that it is never the women themselves, but to those who have shown cross -border behavior,” he says.
In addition, the unexpected received from an intimate photo can bring out earlier experiences with abuse of power or cross -border behavior from women.
The 33-year-old Anne decided to engage the police on Tuesday evening. Together with several women, she has reported the man. The police are investigating the offensive behavior of the man.
Sending an offensive image unsolicited is punishable and can yield up to two months in prison.
*Anne is a fictitious name. Her real name is known to the editors.