«GThe smartphones have revolutionized our way of being together ». As soon as a phrase like this is written or pronounced, an immediate association takes place that leads to our boys and girls. Always connected, always in the flow of social networksalways intent on texting, registering, posting …
It has been calculated that American minors spend 6 and a half hours every day with their mobile phone. In Italy the average is 5 hours. Correspond to 30 percent of the time from awake. So far it takes effect, of course, however, we seem to know everything already.
What if we wanted to talk about the parents of the boys? And of the parents of younger children? If even, in the bubble of that “revolution” of relationships, the problem was more the parents of the children, above all studying the consequences over time?
Barbara Stefanelli (photo by Carlo Vangeri Gilbert).
The definition of specialists is “parental technophence”: Technology interferes in family relationships (also) from top to bottom. He wrote about it Claudio Mencacciamong the best known and estimated psychiatrist in Italy, on Corriere della Serapages of the insert Health in mid -February (Corriere.it).
If parents spend more than 5 hours connected to a device And if 27 percent of the time dedicated to children “actually provides” a triangle (mother or father, daughter or son, always the smartphone), the consequences on the children’s psyche will be felt to adult life. What happens? The risks of developing depression, anxiety, hyperactivity, inattention increase.
Imagine a mother or father who control their mobile phone obsessivelywho peek at the notifications, navigate to see what is happening “outside”, record vowels, laugh at images or words that shake inside their magic box: The little ones will feel inadequate to hold their gaze on themselvesthey will perceive themselves as secondary, weak, literally “negligible”.
The possibility of playing together is painfully set asideso that of having a long conversation without interruption. The sand of housing, discomfort, disorientation will slowly deposit between the roots of self -confidence, of self -confidence.
The hyperconnection of the boys may derive from the wrong behavior of the parents (photo Getty Images).
I am here with mine, but they are intermittent, they go somewhere else, attracted by an external world that magnets them. The only exit strategy, which will then be a dead end, is to imitate that model of behavior. Doing the same thing, demanding a screen, that of the tablet or TV, to turn off in peace.
Perhaps it is of this solitude that we should discuss more. Lives via smartphone are, yes, “rewriting childhood” as Jonathan Haidt wrote in Anxious generation. But the responsibility is much more of us than we are telling each other.
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