When the 8-year-old Peter finished primary school, he would go on a flying holiday with his mother. Unfortunately, that will not happen by that time, because Mama Patricia (41) is incurably ill. She has metastatic cancer and the question is how long she still has to live. The other mothers of the schoolyard have therefore set up a collection campaign, so that mother and son can still go on holiday together.
It is at the end of 2022 when Patricia gets bad news. She has a tumor in her knee. The tumor is irradiated, surgically removed and sent to a pathologist in America. “It turned out that my tumor had responded well to the irradiation. For 98 percent the cancer was killed in my body.”
Patricia’s oncologist made a scan to see if there were metastases. That turned out not to be the case. “Only the radiologist apparently rated this scan wrongly because there were metastases. I now have a tumor with my pancreas and right kidney.”
These metastases mean that Patricia can no longer be cured. “And I was told by the phone when I was in the Lidl. There were just mistakes and it seemed as if the oncologist did not dare to face me,” she says. “In the end I was also incurably ill if the scan was well assessed for the first time, but the tumors have now grown an inch.”
Patricia thinks it is not possible that it went that way, but for now she wants to focus on her son. “I have a new oncologist in Maastricht. He wants to do everything to give me some time to do fun things with Peter. We’re going to pop for that,” she says emotionally.
“I really shit seven colors of shit in my pants for chemotherapy.”
Next week she will start with a combi cure. “I really shit seven colors of shit in my pants in front of chemotherapy, because that really makes you sick,” she says. There will also be an operation and possibly irradiation of the tumor in the pancreas. “And then the wait is what my body is doing. Did it develop a tumor again in three months or in a year?”
The chance that Patricia still has three years to live is less than fifty percent. That she gets the five years is below two percent. Three mothers of the schoolyard are one Gofundme Started so that at that time Patricia can still do some nice things with her son. “In these dark days they gave me so many bright spots. I never had Gofundme heard.”
Patricia’s greatest care is now the future of her child. “On Saturday we lay side by side and he said ‘Mama, if you are dead I can no longer hug you’. Then you have to be strong because you want him to keep showing his emotions with me. I said he closed his eyes Must think that he did.
“I want Peter to be a carefree child and I can be a mom in peace.”
Patricia also asked what Peter would like to do together. “We would fly if I were to go from group eight to secondary education. So I want to fly with you and see palm trees. And a lot of slides,” he said. That is why Patricia would like to go to Spain or Portugal with him. “I don’t have to go to the end of the world. I just want him to be a carefree child and I can be a mommy in peace.”
To pay for the holiday, more than 3800 euros has already been collected via the Gofundme. If money is left after the holidays, Patricia wants to deposit it on a frozen account. “Peter’s father is not in the picture so my parents get custody. On his eighteenth birthday he gets the money as a gift from his mum. So that he can pay his driver’s license and study. Because your child, that’s what you do everything for . ”