Yves Berendse’s mother feels a bit the victim of his enormous success. This Mrs. Sanne hardly sees him. “I choke him in his childhood with my fear.”
Yves Berendse does not take a step outside the door without his father, because he is also his tour manager. Wherever the singer goes – whether that is 538 King’s Day or the studio of Eva Jinek – his dad is always there. But mom? He can stay at home since his enormous success, because otherwise the 31-year-old singer does not feel taken seriously.
Over -concerned
Sanne has difficulty with that, especially since she has always kept Yves so close. “She’s been over. Always been. I wasn’t even allowed to go to high school where I wanted, because I had to cross a dangerous busy road. My mother put a stop to it,” he says in the Libel.
“When she used to hear an ambulance and knew that I was on the way, she called immediately. I taught myself to call her immediately when I saw that she had called, because I knew how worried she was. While I was not at all at the time.
Go through
Sanne still has that craziness. She then thinks that Yves is breaking. “Yes. He sometimes goes through that and is too nice to others. He comes into a space and he will give everyone neatly hands and kisses. Then I think: don’t do that, boy, you will get flu soon!”
Sigh. After the complaining of her son, she realizes: “If I hear it that way, it’s pretty bad? But he is also my only child. I have limited him pretty much because of my concern, that is of course not okay. I suffocated him with my fear, but I couldn’t help it. I have always been so afraid that something bad happened to him, from the moment he was born.”
Let go
Anyway: of course you can’t go through the entire country with such a mother. And so that Sanne is put behind the wine at home. “It is also strange for me, especially because we always did everything together and decided. Until the moment he really ‘passed’. I found that difficult,” she says.
Yves: “At a certain point I couldn’t do anything else, I had to professionalize. Then you can no longer come and turn your mother everywhere. I have hired a manager who also does my bookings“
Neglected
And Yves’s poor mother? He feels neglected. “I suddenly sat on the couch on my own night after night, because he was also out of the house. And my husband always went with him. I always put Yves first in my life, so I had to switch. But I thought: I now have time to do more for myself.”
Getting used to it never works. “We app several times a day and when I call him and I don’t get hold of him, he always calls back immediately. But we sometimes don’t see each other for two weeks at all and I think that’s way too long.”
Jealous
With a worried mother on the couch and a singing father in the passenger seat: the situation is complex for Yves. Especially now that one is also jealous of the other.
Mama Berendse concludes: “Yes, then he is on the road with my husband every day, sometimes an hour and a half and send videos on which they sing together in the car. Sometimes that gnaws and I think: what a pity that I see so little.”