QUando touched me, I had recently written for a brand of porcelain service a booklet on the bon ton of the “yes”, a compendium of very accountant and already vintage rules and habits: The wedding party touched the bride’s family, the house and the honeymoon to that of the groomsilver and beautiful services to relatives according to the list deposited in a trusted shop.
It was taken for granted that the spouses were young, unwary and penniless And that the wedding represented the basic dowry to put on home and family. If that booklet falls into the hands of a bride today, would it horrify: and the dress? And the party?
For forty years every year we get married a little less than the year before (- 6.7 percent in 2024 compared to 2023 according to data Istat), very little in church, but with more feeling: if you say yes, it is not to make families of origin (less pressing) or for religion (little present), but for love.
Many prefer cohabitations, which increase together with the second or subsequent wedding (today 24 percent of the total weddings which are just over 180 thousand per year). You no longer get married to leave the house, but you go out late (61 percent over 35 years), when you find a house, and above all an affordable house, which often shares with others before taking flight with your partner. At that point everyone brings what has accumulated from other houses, and goodbye dowry.
Danda Santini, director of “Io Donna” (photo by Carlo Vangeri Gilbert).
Only mixed marriages increase (today 16 percent of the total), especially Italians with foreignersand the unions between people of the same sex (about three thousand couples per year).
Instead, it grows, and is increasingly flourishing, the parties, international weddings sectorof local ones but away and long weddings, endless wedding, endless weddings, which last an entire weekend. The party becomes the road test of the couple’s organizational and creative skills, she in the lead.
Weddings and Instagram
Minimum one year of headache and rethinking on the place, style, soundtrack and naturally clothes: a real event, average expenditure of six months of salary. Friends (many) and relatives (well selected) contribute at will to the honeymoon, to some appliances or a bizarre desire for the couple; The budget is all concentrated on the day of the yes. So that it is perfect, that is spectacularmagical, authentic, original, unforgettable and instagrammable (great weddings on the internet hook).
Today’s wedding: is the wedding list through fashion? (Illustration of Cinzia Zenocchini).
Like the stars, why not? A moment as red carpet for everyone, democratic, at least once in a lifetime. If you can’t rent the Grand Canal, The dress will still be white, long, from diva, with the veil, very traditional where all the other traditions have disappeared.
Getting married is always a room, with many risks: one wedding on two ends up in divorce. The separations grew at a stable rhythm from the introduction of divorce in 1970, then they began to decrease with the demographic decline.
Not surprisingly, That very prudent booklet of many years ago advised to keep the wedding list with the value of each gift And the name of those who had donated. To cope with quarrels: “The tea service to me because of my aunt Lucia, the dessert forks to you because of your uncle Caesar”. What an inelegant detail. And then, who uses them more dessert posatine?
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