THEthe boxing champion Mattia Faraoni made the marriage proposal to his partner directly from the ring, just won the Italian title. The Ducati rider Scott Reddingafter the victory in Most (Czech Republic) it is kneeling worldwide in front of girlfriend Jacey Hayden. The first dancer of La Scala Timofej Andrijashenko made the “proposal” to the étoile Nicoletta Manni during the show Bolle and Friends: kneecap elegantly placed on the stage of the Arena di Verona and case in hand…
The marriage proposal is social
They said it had already gone out of fashion in 2016. It seemed that the revolutionary generation Y would rather spend more on a nice trip than on a diamond. It’s not clear what happened in the meantime, maybe social media got in the way, but the engagement ring, preferably instagrammable (there’s no girl of minimal notoriety who doesn’t post it, as soon as she gets it), it’s back in a big way. And sales are steadily increasing, assures the site jewels.com. It will be that, aside from celebrity stories, series and films abound where he kneels down and offers her a ringsmall (not too much) or large, vintage (Bridgerton has cleared Regency jewels, how can you not want Violet’s ring?), with a brilliant, a tourmaline, a moonstone, a morganite, a sign of serious intentions.
For the psychologist Anna Maria Giannini (La Sapienza, Rome) the rings have a very strong symbolic value, the investment is also emotional: «For example, disappointed by a finished marriage, one wants to believe in the second with a more expensive ring than the first».
The rites of celebrities and billionaires
In “young adult” fantasy Darkness and Bones (on Netflix) where Prince Nikolai gives Alina “l’Evocaluce”, a spectacular emerald, because, as in the Neapolitan Mixed by Erry by Sydney Sibilia, rites are rites. They apply to Rupert Murdoch, 92, who on St. Patrick’s Day gave his new future wife, the fifth, an Asscher cut diamond solitaire. The rituals are valid (a matter of level playing field) for the pop star Cher, 76, who dated Alexander AE Edwards, not yet forty, the ring with a huge teardrop stone. Old fashioned stuff? Not at all.
Tom Holland, gave to Zendaya a six carat yellow diamond from Bulgariand Brooklyn Beckham chose her a $250,000 emerald-cut solitaire for Nicola Peltz (he is 24, she is 28). Then they got married.
Marriage proposal? It must be original
What’s new is that, in spite of tradition (the slogan “A diamond is forever” by De Beers dates back to 1948) colors are now very popular, once contraindicated. No rubies, because they were considered too masculine, they recalled blood, no emeralds, because green was a sign of inconstancy (banknotes, gaming tables). Now everything has changed, assure from Fred Leighton, New York institution of vintage jewelry. They sell emeralds, rubies and sapphires, topaz and yellow diamonds. But also semi-precious stones: peridot, spinel, jasper, turquoise. And the delivery must be “original”.
At the end of a romantic comedy, before the end credits. For dessert, in a starred restaurant, served on a plate as icing on the cake or inside a cream puff (be careful). With Ed Sheeran’s Perfect in the background. At the end of an extreme activity for authentic adventurers (abstain others): a climb, heli-skiing, bungee jumping, rafting or zorb (rolling down a hill enclosed inside a giant inflatable ball). With a scrapbooking (an album) of the love story: newspaper clippings, photos, dedications and receipts, to get to the box with the ring. On the net there are tips for organizing a treasure hunt, delivery by drone, fake delivery man, bunch of balloons.
One thing’s for sure: girls want it, complete with Proposal, a sign of True Love. They want it badly. Underground machinations, tours in the centre, not too casual passages in front of Tiffany, Damiani, Bulgari, any jeweler, serve to suggest a romantic idea to men in love who only understand anything about football and motorcycles… Says Silvia Grassi Damiani (his maison created the ring that Brad Pitt put on Jennifer Aniston’s finger, and she still wears it often: «The engagement ring, for those who believe in it, seals a promise that one would like to be for life».
Meghan and Harry of England’s engagement ring (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
So when it doesn’t come, it’s pain. “I’ve had more than one important story and I’ve never received, not a diamond, but not even a record” says Patrizia Delusa in a letter (not her surname, of course) “once, on Valentine’s Day, me and my ex we were having dinner with my brother and his girlfriend, now wife. He gave her a solitaire, she burst into tears of joy and I thought: I’ve been engaged for three years, and after five months she receives the ring! Sadness. My new partner and I have been together for ten months and… nothing. It’s now a dream/obsession. Why not? It depends on how special we are or how much they are in love with them?». Ah, to know!
For the marriage proposal there is the love coach
To understand, we need the sentimental advisor. One like Benjamin Daly, “love coach” English writing in his Why men don’t commit (“Because men don’t commit themselves”): «If he doesn’t show with gestures – the words are carried away by the wind – that he cares, if he can’t set common goals, don’t expect rings». Or someone like Mary G. Baccaglini (At worst we fall in loveGarzanti), popular love coach of our home (marygbaccaglini. com) who invites you to “buy a white horse, learn to ride, fight against your dragon-demons, save yourself alone”, because “happy ending depends a lot on happy starting».
And never underestimate etiquette
But, when the happy ending arrives, there is still the rock of etiquette. Tradition implies some rules. Luckily there is Elisa Motterle, Vestal of the new Etiquette with Bon ton pop. Handbook of contemporary etiquette to improve yourself and live well with others (Harper Collins): «If one of the two future spouses is in their second marriage, the ring is worn only when the divorce is final. Rejecting a family one is possible but with a minimum of style (the frame can be changed).
On the day of the wedding, the ring must be entrusted to the maid of honor or the witness: the bride will go to church without it, to emphasize faith. She will wear it upon reception over the wedding ring or on the right ring finger. If you leave before the wedding, you must be returned.’ But anyway. Paris Hilton kept herself a 20-carat diamond after split from Chris Zilka. Motivation, the usual: diamonds are a girl’s best friend. Great consolation for a bruised heart.
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