Do you delegate a task and let it flow? Never! You need to confirm that it is done correctly, because no one will do it as good as you. If you do not supervise it, something could go very bad and cause terrible consequences.
Therefore, you are on top, breathing in the neck of the manager, ready to correct errors or even take away the task with a “leave, I do.”
But did you stop thinking about how that person feels (your employee, couple or son) when you question their ability? How does this relationship affect the lack of trust? What if, for focusing on a detail, you are losing sight of a valuable or loving whole?
What is the worst that could happen if you give clear indications and trust that it will do its best? Prob it. The world will not go down if work is not perfect. You could even surprise yourself with better results than yours.
Pretending to control everything is an illusion.
- My mother is very old and I hardly recognize her. I would like not to be so, but I can’t change it.
- You loved someone and wanted a life together, but he left.
- She would like her boss to be more fair, may her son choose another sport, that her sister achieved her dream.
Resist reality only exhausts and frustrates. Wisdom is to accept what it is. I do not speak of resignation, but of recognizing and understanding.
But today I come to claim control, it is another, it is a personal value, where you have power:
- Control over your own words, thoughts and emotions. Not to suppress them, but to manage them with intelligence.
- Control over your intentions, decisions and results.
It is about control over your life.
Paradoxically, control makes you free. Free of concerns, fears, guilt and excuses. It gives you the ability to choose where you want to be, with whom, doing what.
It is a skill that develops: look at you in each situation and choose your answer. The one that brings you to who you want to be, to your goals and your well -being. Without one crush the other, but in that delicate balance that will bring you the tranquility you are looking for. Like every new habit, it requires practice, first with consciousness, until it becomes natural.
Control over your life. I challenge you to try it. Tell me how you feel.
I assure you that there is another way of living.
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