We live in an era where everything seems possible. We choose what to eat, what series to look at, what a professional path to follow, with whom to share life. At first glance, having so many options sounds like freedom. However, many times we feel just the opposite: exhausted, confused, anxious.
This overload has a name and is called Decision fatigue. It is the fatigue that appears when we face too many elections, and none seems completely “correct.” We doubt, we compare, postpone. We want to do our best, but we end up losing the axis of what we really want.
And there is something deeper still: many of our choices are not born of an authentic desire, but of the attempt to fulfill what others expect from us. The family, friends, networks. We get carried away by invisible mandates, looking for approval more than well -being.
Are you still looking for the approval of others? It is an uncomfortable question, because when our decisions are assembled from the outside and not from the inside, disconnection appears. We lose sight.
It also happens that we live under the constant demand to seek “the best”: the best job, the best couple, the best version of ourselves. That ideal of perfection takes us away from the possible, from enough, from what today can do us.
Therefore, a liberating idea appears … choose what is good enough for this moment, without waiting for it to be perfect. It is not about resigning, but about choosing calmly, coherence and connection.
I propose a brief exercise to start listening to you:
- Ask: If nobody expected anything from me, what would I choose today?
- I wrote what arises, without judging.
- Identify what comes from you and what comes from others mandates.
- I chose a small, possible action that brings you closer to what you really want.
Because in the end, true freedom is not to have a thousand options, but to be able to choose from one’s own desire. Living in coherence with what we are is much lighter than living fulfilling expectations that do not belong to us.
Lic. In Psychology.Coach Professional Ontological
Posadas María Josefina
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