I’m better than you! Belief or truth? Each phrase that we say generates an action, and we act based on our beliefs…
And you know something? You can challenge them and see what happens. That famous phrase attributed to Albert Einstein already says it: “If you want different results, don’t always do the same”. You are part of the change. The first step will be internal: question yourself, yourself, about the things you say and how you say them, feeling how your own words resonate with you.
The second step will be to learn to recognize from where you are speaking and behaving, to evaluate the place in which your sayings place you and how they impact your relationships.
Have you ever wondered how many times you thought “I’m better than you” when watching a co-worker, a boss or a couple talking or doing something? How many times has another person thought the same of you when you exposed something you wanted to share, an idea, project or simply knowledge? Every thought generates a conscious or unconscious action, and this leads our brain to seek the coherence of what we are thinking.
Often, these types of negative beliefs (“I am better than others”) take hold of some people, stealing all their energies and taking them out of focus. In addition to not providing any value, they generate exhaustion instead of driving progress, and favor situations of dysfunctional competition and uncomfortable work or family environments.
I propose to develop your emotional intelligence to get out of that place that does not let you grow. When you undertake this path, a new panorama of possibilities unfolds, giving way to a completely different look. This “other way” of feeling, thinking, acting, assumes a leading and differential role that will make you and the other person shine as well, no longer competing, but recognizing, highlighting and strengthening the best of each one from a job together in pursuit of goals. Then, it will be time to replace “I’m better than you” with “We are the best! We are the champions of the world!”. It’s proven to work!
The more effective your way of communicating is, challenging your own beliefs, the more significant the passage of your life will be in the lives of others… Because there is no one better than you, you are a unique person! But you have to admit that first.
6 tips to develop your emotional intelligence:
1.Recognize from where you are speaking to yourself.
2-Compare yourself: today, in your current version, before and thinking about the ideal person you want to be.
3-Don’t take everything they say literally. Nothing is personal, the other says what he says…
4-Put real empathy at stake: the other does the best he can, help him see something different, without judging if it’s right or wrong.
5-Don’t criticize anyone and make valuable contributions.
6-Accepting that others may think differently opens possibilities. Believing that we have the only truth closes them.
*By Alejandra Pujó She is a specialist in Emotions Coaching, founder of Coaching with Horses and creator of the Triple C Methodology. CEO of the organization “Emotion in Motion”.
by Alejandra Pujó*
