An individual from birth is exposed to constant comparisons, which become more acute in childhood and adolescence. demands of a “be like”tinged with a false and superficial success, marked from the market as an ideal to aspire to belong.
In this equation, the “have”. If you can’t afford a certain toy, brand of clothing, or shiny cell phone, you’re not good enough.
“SOS signals”
When the quality of existence is based on and determined from “possessing”, sadness and emptiness become powerful. As a consequence, various symptoms appear of what can not be named, in the form of cuts in the body, vomiting, anxiety, depression, impulsiveness, inhibitions, etc. various sufferings, loud SOS signals
No one teaches (neither school nor the media) that this dissimilarity that he suffers from a young age gives shape to the first questions asked for help: “Why won’t I be the same as? Nobody accepts me the way I am.”
As time goes by, It is that own and original discrepancy that will allow us to grow.
Developing internally is asserting the personal, connecting with what one feels. When this emotional connection is achieved, “having” becomes in some cases “a means to” and in others a “mere ornament”.
“The terrible thing about diversity: very personal”
society is scared a “different being” that breaks the established, being the engine of a possible change. This imposed system is reassured by the normative and general belief: “it is a winner to be equal to”, erasing inequalities. Reproduction of a “boring normal”, which guarantees an unhealthy but reassuring “status quo” of certain centers of power.
It is valuable to listen to one’s own difference, transforming that noise from childhood and adolescence into a call to grow and believe, making a mark with style and presence, shining from one’s own essence.
Text: Lic German Rothstein
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