Some of us believe that the world is changing. We are independent, open-minded and very modern. We surround ourselves with smart people and we don’t get out of our bubble. Error. This is why it is so necessary to travel from time to time so as not to think that certain things no longer happen or to look the other way. The other day I had the opportunity to meet Kali Sudhra, a sex worker specializing in workshops with a feminist perspective. Her main focus is to explore and present dissident sexuality, directly challenging white heteronormativity using porn and its platform as a medium.
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I attended one of his famous ‘squirting’ workshops. Yes, that sexual practice that consists, summarizing it a lot, in getting women to ejaculate. It’s very interesting, you become aware of what your body is like inside, you learn things and spend time surrounded by women of different ages who meet in a safe space to discuss and talk about sex without taboos. At one point, one of them left the group and asked me how could the clitoris be stimulated from within if it had been circumcised. I got a little stuck and asked circumcision? Yes. She answered. They operated on her and removed the outer part of her clitoris. I looked at her very seriously and told her: Don’t bleach the female genital mutilation! What they have done to your friend (she told me about a friend) is mutilation. A clitoral ablation.
She nodded and my head exploded. How can these things keep happening? It is the first time that I know a case like this in the first person and the truth is that I felt a little uncomfortable. There, talking about sexuality in such a beautiful and free way. I felt bad for all those women who continue to suffer in the world that violence so brutal and unfair. But I also felt hopeful. If someone like that is capable of entering an erotic shop to avoid settling for the intended ‘No pleasure’, we are doing something right. Luckily, it is impossible to remove the internal part of the clitoris. As much as it pisses some people off.