THE romance They like more and more. Those who were once called “pink novels” or more simply “Love novels”, today I am a real literary genre that conquers more and more shelves in bookstores. The merit is of the gen z that loves this genre. So you are more romantic and you know more about love, given how much does it read about it? Not exactly. And not only because above all the youngest do not like love conventions. But also because Reading a love story and living it on your skin are two very different things.
Couple life, the boom of pink novels
Love novels like them. Today they are called romanceand there are writers who have specialized in the genre, but little changes. THEand stories that speak of feelings continue to conquer many readers. Especially among the youngest who, even if they also decreed Jane Austen as the most loved writer of this kind, do not disdain contemporary stories, with colorful and inviting covers. In short, love triumphs in novels. A little less in reality.
And not only because the new generations are more refractory to monogamy and love conventions. But also because Couple life is often more complicated than it appears in novels. So the question is: Legging sentimental novels help couple life? “Depends. The reading of a novel, whose focus is on one or more sentimental relationships, can certainly be an excellent example and inspiration for those who read it “explains Dr. Denise Picone Chiodo, sexologist, psychologist and psychotherapist, also available on my doctor, who continues” on the other side, however, the risk is that of create expectations far from reality And to put a standard that does not take into account the differences and individual needs, a fundamental thing in the creation of a stable and lasting bond ».
«The main function of the book, therefore, should be that of a escape from reality, a fantastic corner of which to take refuge to detach himself from everyday lifealways keeping in mind that what is reading is the result of someone else’s great imagination and creativity, or that if it is a real story of the story of subjects ‘others’ with us, so as not to risk confusing ours and their reality “.
The mechanisms that are activated when you read a love novel
Reading these books does not mean just “detaching” from reality or learning to have a different approach to life to two, perhaps also learning to experiment. These stories can give the opportunity to reflect: «Reading you identify with it, imagine, empathize and reflect yourself. Through the mirroring, there may be a valid support useful to legitimize some emotions who are experimented with within the couple but who do not authorize themselves to express. Have the opportunity to note that even someone else different from us has experienced certain emotional states, there helps not to feel wrong for trying them, thus giving useful support to the possibility of externalizing and sharing with the partner ».
Reading pink novels can therefore be useful if the stories are read as ideas. In fact, if the “lessons” learned from the book can be adapted to one’s needs and needs, their reality and history, then this genre can also be useful. On the other hand, it is the wanting to copy and adapt one’s life to that of the novelalso expecting that your partner acts in the same way as the characters of the book.
The non-Counter of the love novels
Read this genre therefore does not have contraindications as long as it is well aware That the protagonists are imaginary characters and the two plans, reality and fantasy, must never be confused: “There are imaginary characters and on the other hand people in flesh and blood lived in the whole of reality. Dreaming and imagining is good for the heart and mind but with the awareness that this does not always represent the place where we move every day ».