In summer, desire increases, but for many couples having sex becomes more difficult because of the circumstances. Dr. Cozzolino, sexologist explains it

THESex in summer in many cases it is more desired than lived. If it is true that the warm season rhymes with eros, lightness and freedom, often the presence of the children of the children, the shared environments With friends or relatives they can Make more difficult to find yourself with your partner. The explains the Dr. Marinella Cozzolinopsychotherapist and clinical sexologist.

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Sex and desire: how much does it matter to feel good about yourself

«For many, it is really In the hottest months that the desire lights upfueled by a series of factors. It is a mix between the change of context, the exposure of the body, the abandonment of the routine and a general sense of freedom, which It can concern as much as they are as single as those who are in pairs. During the winter, many people invest energy in body care with diets, gym and objectives related to the so -called “costume test”. In reality, more than a challenge with the scale, it is a comparison with one’s ability to seduce and feel desirable. Even the tan contributes to the game of seduction: those who tan often perceive themselves more beautiful, safer than themselves, more ready to let go. It is precisely this feel good with yourself to give an important push to sexual desire»Underlines Dr. Cozzolino.

When his wife is on vacation

«The distance from everyday life, finding yourself far from the usual context allows you to live different sensations, sometimes unexpected. In women A new perception of freedom can emerge, Perhaps dictated by the fact of being at the beach with the children while the partner is still in the city. The different environment can allow you to get in touch with figures such as the surf teacher or the village garment, which embody aesthetic and masculinity ideals. In many cases It doesn’t need to look at a look at: The very idea of being able to be noticed can be enough to stimulate eros, without necessarily realizing it. The game of seduction, in fact, is often more rewarding than the act itselfespecially when it does not require a sequel », continues the expert.

Sex: how to do when children are young

“However, within the couple, especially if with children, things get complicated. If on the one hand summer promotes sensuality, on the other it requires practical limits. The children go to bed later, there are no school routines, the evenings stretch between Giostrine and Walking, and The spaces of intimacy are drastically reduced. Couples find themselves having to manage the physical fatigue of intense days, between sea, excursions and abundant dinnerswho are not infrequently concluded with the sole desire to sleep. The biological rhythm of sexuality moves forward, but often cannot find a truly suitable time », continues Dr. Cozzolino.

Sex and couples without children

«The children without children, in theory, they could enjoy greater freedom. In practice, however, complex dynamics also emerge here. Expectations can turn into pressure: The week on vacation together becomes for some a trial bench of the relationship, an “obligatory” moment in which sex must be there, even if maybe the desire is not there. One of the two partners can experience the situation with enthusiasm, while the other can feel crushed from the weight of the request, unable to turn on the desire under the pressure of a duty. In these cases we could talk about “Inspiration anxiety”: a sense of constraint that hinders precisely that spontaneity of which sexuality feeds “, highlights the expert.

On vacation with friends and relatives: What about sex?

«When the holiday passes in the company of relatives, friends or parents of one or the other, further barriers come into play. Intimacy becomes difficult, the spaces become tight, the risk of being interrupted or “uncovered” Desoria dampens. The couples adapt as they can: they take refuge on bathrooms, isolated beaches, boats, improvising opportunities that look more like a fox hunt than a moment of connection. The erotic game then moves towards a more playful dimension, made of allusions, looks, stolen caresses, which can replace the complete ratio or prepare it, postponing it to a more suitable moment. In short, Summer lights desire, but it does not necessarily make it easier to live. Between expectations, family constraints, altered rhythms and tiredness, sexuality can take on forms other than the usual ones. Often it moves from concreteness to imagination, from routine to fantasy, from performance to game », concludes Dr. Cozzolino.

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