HTo never feel that feeling of emptiness, that panic or that anguish to the idea that the other person can leave you? Have you ever canceled you just to keep a relationship standing, even when it hurt you? This can be theanxiety from abandonment and refers to one deep and often invisible fearwhich is rooted in emotional and emotional experiences starting from childhood and over time it can be transformed into a real Affective dependence. The good news is that you can start a psychological path of awareness, knowledge and personal growth.
Anxiety to be abandoned, as psychotherapy acts
Through psychotherapy you can learn to recognize the signs of abandonment anxiety, working on self -esteem and self -confidence. The value of the loneliness as a space for individual development. Build healthy relationships without more or less unaware chains. In this article we try to explain what is really behind anxiety as abandonment and because it is so linked to emotional dependence.
What is abandonment anxiety?
It is specifically the intense and often irrational fear of being left alone or of being refused from who you love. It is therefore not just a simple fear: it is adeep anguish which can influence all the individual’s relationships.
Where can anxiety come from from abandonment?
The origins of abandonment anxiety can often be placed in childhood, when the child can experience real or perceived experiences of abandonment or separation. Sometimes parents are emotionally unavailable or disabling and the child grows with the feeling that love is not stable or guaranteed.
This way of living relationships can lead to a dysfunctional relationship, where you can accept everything in order not to be left (Getty Images)
The symptoms to be recognized
Those who live later by constantly experimenting with abandonment anxiety in adult relationships are frequently characterized by: seeking stories at all costs, being afraid of being alone, depending emotionally on the other to feel safe and safe. This way of living relationships can lead to a Disfunctional couple relationshipWhere you get to accept everything in order not to be leftthe. The typical signals of abandonment anxiety are be afraid that the other leaves us even without there being a real or reasonable reason. Feel empty when you are alone. Live relationships with the constant need for confirmation or approvals. These are usually alarm bells of abandonment anxiety, so not to be underestimated or neglect.
Control, jealousy and low self -esteem
In addition, common behaviors as a result of abandonment anxiety are, for example, usually: excessive control of the partner. Unmotivated or exaggerated jealousy. Bear mistreatment or arrogance, idealize the other or the relationship with the other. These behaviors therefore strengthen the Affective dependence which can be established in people with abandonment anxious.
Anxiety of abandonment: here’s how to get out of it
To start getting out of the dysfunctional and disabling dynamics of abandonment anxiety, it is essential to recognize the problem. To do this, you have to work on your self -esteem and self -efficacy. It is then necessary to learn to be alone without feeling less worth or being wrong. It is essential to ask for help and psychological support from a qualified and expert professional.
The change always starts from awareness. And then remember: abandonment anxiety does not define you or you have to identify yourself. You can learn to love without depending And first of all learn to love and respect themselves. Meriti rewarding relationships, mutual and free from fear and anxiety.
When loving hurts, the book on emotional dependence
THE’Lovein its healthiest and most constructive manifestations, represents a profound and Innate human needand implies an important motivation and a safe and functional attachment to others. Vice versa, When love turns into habit to sufferuntil it becomes what is called a real “emotional dependence”, it places itself as a pain capable of bringing serious problems psychological, physical and relational.
In this condition, increasingly widespread in the contemporary world, the couple’s relationship is experienced as an indispensable prerequisite for one’s existence and this represents the antithesis of love towards oneself.
In this volume the author provides a thorough, complete and detailed examination of the emotional dependence, based on an exhaustive analysis of the scientific literature currently existing.
The goal is to provide the reader with a clear idea of what emotional dependence is, how it is conceptualized and how it can be manifested. In addition to his causes and strategies and intervention techniques to face it and overcome it.
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