You may have heard in your area that some relationships have been killed. You would say that everything grows and blooms at the beginning of spring and love is stronger than ever. But it is precisely those ‘spring jitters’ that ensure that people separate, the well -known sexologist/psychologist Eveline Stallaart from Heeze knows: “When we are working on the big spring cleaning, people also take a closer look at their relationship and then it is often thrown out of the window.”
The so -called Break-up season Is not something we made up at Omroep Brabant, although the necessary relationships have also died at the editors. According to Stallaart, there are various scientific studies that show that in March and the beginning of April more people say goodbye to their partner.
It has been known for some time that more relationships are also on the cliffs around the summer and around Christmas. But a new trend is the current one Break-up season Not according to the sexologist. “That has to do with the sunlight, which is now much more. As a result, men and women make more testosterone. Because of this hormone we are more interested in sex and possibly new relationships.”
And that is not the only substance that causes our behavior to change in the spring and summer, says Stallaart. “The melatonin that makes us a little sleepy in the winter disappears. Serotonin comes in the place and that makes us more energetic and more motivated.” The seasons and the corresponding amount of sunlight really ensure that our hormone balance changes.
“We put things in perspective now.”
“That new energy that spring gives us ensures that we can see things in perspective,” the sexologist explains. “We ask ourselves questions such as: am I still getting enough out of this? Do I still like it enough? And am I still going on with enthusiasm?”
According to Stallaart, for example, we are a bit more hard for Christmas around Christmas. While we are now getting the festival season – and we are more outside and we also dress a little beaming – we consciously or unconsciously ask the question whether we still want that with the person we are with. “It’s one reality check that cause all those substances. “
“As a sexologist I am now busier.”
The fact that many at the start of spring keep a big spring cleaning and thereby look critically at their relationship, it is not only necessary to lead to broken hearts. “It is also often a reason to give a relationship a new boost and to make something of it. As a result, I am busier in this period as a psychologist and sexologist,” explains Stallaart.
And she also has some tips for when things are not going well for a while, but a couple still want to go for it together. “Sincere attention can really cause an impulse. So do off screens and trouble for each other.” And then she’s really not about big gestures: “People sometimes suddenly go crazy and give big gifts and play weird antics, but it is in the small things.”
According to Stallaart, it is important that partners feel appreciated by the other. “Listen to each other and talk to each other. Those kinds of small things make the difference. And if that doesn’t help, seek help with a psychologist or sexologist.”
And for the people looking or want to go for something new: “No worries, because of the better weather we make more dopamine and we radiate more happiness. That makes people pull together faster.”