Emotional needs are part of being human, giving and receiving love, a hug, an I love you and a see you later.
Affective deficiencies refer to unmet emotional needs in relationships and life in general. These deficiencies can arise when people have not received the appropriate amount of affection, attention, emotional support and validation during their development, either in childhood or in later stages of life from their loved ones and their closest environment. : Your significant others will be the most important as an example for the person.
One of the main characteristics that appears when the individual has an emotional lack is “distrust”: by growing up feeling little loved or appreciated, this person can end up distrusting others, even when there are no obvious reasons to do so. At the same time, “empathy” is added, because they know what a lack of affection feels like; these people tend to be very kind and empathetic with others, managing to please and put themselves in the other’s shoes.
Another characteristic is the constant search for validation or acceptance from others; they often feel the need to constantly seek approval to feel valuable. They also have a hard time setting healthy boundaries in their relationships and often sacrifice their own needs to please others, leaving aside their own beliefs or choices. This will undoubtedly lead to an imbalance in your emotional life.
Finally, perfectionism appears; those who grew up fighting for their family’s attention may end up setting very high standards for themselves.
It is important how you take care of yourself. Emotional deficiencies can lead to a lack of self-care. Talking about your feelings with loved ones can be liberating.
Remember, if you feel that emotional deficiencies are significantly affecting your emotional well-being, consider seeking professional guidance.
Maria Jose Lopez
Humanistic counselor
Ig: @majolopezcounselor
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