THECan our sexual life be saved from the digital detox? Can be. Certainly badly does not. Also because, as emerges from recent studies, it seems that many couples have no rule regarding the use of smartphones and the like, spending most of the time together connected online instead of talking to each other. And the couple, including sex life, is inevitably suffered. That the time has come to put into practice of the digital detox?
Sex life, what is the digital detox?
Social media cause anxiety. To demonstrate the many studies conducted from 2010 to today who tell of how excessive use of smartphones causes depression, anxiety and poor self -esteem in young people but not only. In addition to taking time that could be dedicated to something else, for example to couple life.
«Starting in 2010, various scholars have focused on the negative effects that social and electronic devices were causing people: the term was born thus Digital detox precisely for this growing diffusion of electronic devices and the spread of social networks»Tells the Dr. Claudia Tagliapietra, psychologist and sexologist from MioDottore.
Not to mention that, as the expert explains, An abuse of social networks also caused the reverse problem, namely that of the FOME (Fear of Missing Out) That is, the fear of being disconnected, of getting lost in important things, of not being able to keep social media under control and, worse still, the fear of not existing because you cannot share on social networks all you live . The digital detox is therefore a real detoxification From social media to try to regain its time, finding mental well -being that also passes from a lowering of the level of anxiety and stress. In addition to better managing sexual life and couple in general.
It’s called Phubbing, fusion between Phone and Snubbing, that is, ignoring someone because of the phone (Getty Images)
How much technology influences sexual life?
Technology, and above all its abuse, negatively influences sex life for this, a digital detox can be fundamental: «Hyperconnection with social networks and excessive use of electronic devices can lead to an emotional distance between partners: many couples are found to spend a lot of time physically together, but with the mind absorbed by the smartphone screen». An example? At the restaurant, when both look at the smartphone instead of chatting together.
A phenomenon that also has a precise name: “Is called phubbingfusion between phone And snubbingthat is, ignoring someone because of the phone. But what is affected by the most is the communication itself: even if on the one hand technology helps us to remain connected even at a distance, on the other it has made it more superficial and aseptic ». It is no coincidence that a survey of the Global Web Index conducted in 2019 highlighted a very interesting fact: «IThe 45% of the people who use a Smarthpone in bed, does it at the expense of the moments of connection with their partner leading to a distraction and reduction of libido. This happens because, the excessive use of social media and digital content leads to a hyperactivation of the brain by reducing the ability to relax and let go of intimacy “reports the expert.
For this, especially if you sail the evening before falling asleep, not only do you have effects denied on sleep but also on sexual life precisely because We didn’t relax before and you are too absorbed by what we have seen on social networks. Thus prove a communicative and emotional distance.
Disconnect from social networks, here’s how
As always when it comes to disconnection, even in this case it takes gradualitycannot be sudden otherwise you risk obtaining the opposite effect. «The goal of the Digital Detox It is not to completely eliminate electronic devices or social networks, but to have a more conscious approach To them, learning to use them in a balanced way, regaining space for social experiences ».
The first step? Be aware. That is, to know how long on average they spend are a day on social media. Almost everyone does not know how long we dedicate to Instagram & co: start putting “black on white” this figure can help. Not surprisingly, the same social networks now have among the Alert settings that warn when you pass a certain period, so as to be able to monitor its use. «Once we have seen the time that you spend with technology and social media a first step could be that of Decide not to use them during meals, or when you go walking, or during a dinner, or maybe avoid social media before going to sleep».
The other benefits of the digital detox
Sex life aside, what are the other benefits of setting aside social networks? First of all you become more productivenot only at a professional level but also in the private individual because you have more time to devote to other pastimes, such as reading a book. Being the basis of contemporary anxieties and poor self -esteem, Using less social networks leads to lowering stress levels and making you feel safer, because an often deleterious comparison is avoided with a certain type of world. So you have a improvement of one’s self -esteem but also of concentration and a positive change in sleep quality. All benefits on which we should reflect.
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