One of the themes that I see most often in my coachee is precisely narcissism.
In the world of dating and relationships, more and more people are interested in recognizing the signs of a narcissist early on as they can have a destructive impact on our lives and it is essential to know how to spot the early signs or red flags.
As a sex coach and couples therapist, I have worked with numerous individuals who have suffered the consequences of relating to a narcissist. It should be noted that it occurs in both sexes, but it is almost 85% more common in men.
In this note I will share with you key tips to identify these characteristics in your first chat or dates.
A red flag and the biggest one at the beginning is Love Bombing or love bombing, in a short time an excess of messages, gifts and sweet words to your ears (does it resonate with you?). They tend to charm and seduce quickly, creating an idealized image in you. Pay attention if they idealize you or put you on a pedestal prematurely, as this can be a big sign for a future unbalanced relationship.
excessive vanity. A narcissist will tend to talk constantly about himself and show a great need for admiration. This is easy to detect, see if her achievements or attributes predominate in chats or dates without showing much interest in knowing more about you.
Lack of empathy. One of the clearest characteristics of a narcissist is their inability to connect emotionally with others. Pay close attention to how he responds to your feelings or emotions and whether he shows indifference or minimizes your experiences.
Manipulation and control. The geniuses are the masters of manipulation, they will try to blame you for everything that happens, turning all the facts in their favor. Narcissists often refuse to take responsibility for their actions and are very clever at turning everything around and leaving you as the culprit. There is so much manipulation that you will doubt whether you are really guilty or not.
Recognizing them early is essential to avoid toxic relationships. I have witnessed the devastating effects of getting involved with people who have this predisposition hoping that one day they will change.
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