THEto happiness must be grown every day, but lasts a moment. You can learn, yet It should be sought in small things. Often We associate it with incorrect conceptsloading it with high expectations or binding it to sacrifice and reward. But what if we changed perspective? On the occasion of the World happiness day that is celebrated on March 20thwe asked the Dr. Marinella Cozzolinopsychologist and psychotherapist, as you can reach it.
Happiness: a wrong idea?
«Allegria, joy, serenity, Euphoria are the Serie B sisters of happiness, compared to which we have a truly high expectation. Nevertheless Too often in our culture it is linked to sacrifice. We imagine it as a goal, something to be achieved after commitment, sweat and sacrifice. From an early age we are taught that We will be happy only after getting something: a good vote, a prize, a recognition. The truth is that Happiness is free And it should not be seen as the result of an effort, but as a mood accessible to everyone, without condition. It is made of simple moments: the sun that enters the window, the thought that tomorrow is Saturday and you do not work, the emotion of a meeting with a special person. It is not a prize, it’s a way of looking at the world»Explains Dr. Cozzolino.
Prepare for happiness
«Happiness it must be prepared with joy and is a choice. To reach it, you must get rid of all possible obstacles. First of all from useless complaints. When we are in traffic, for example, rather than focusing on all negative aspects, we can appreciate the time we have to listen to our favorite music. Instead of focusing on a rainy day, we can enjoy the pleasure of being warm with a good book. Happiness It does not depend on the external circumstances, it is The joyful, welcoming, cheerful gaze on the world. Being predisposed to joy also changes the way we face the difficulties. A disease can become an opportunity to slow down, to take care of ourselves, to spend time with our loved ones. The loss of a job can reveal the possibility of change, growth, new experiences “, continues the expert.
Happiness is affected
“Be happy It does not depend on who, where or when, but on how. We should teach him in schools. But Happiness is not studied, you learn, especially in the family. To parents the task of transmitting enthusiasm, of teaching to rejoice for the victories of others, for a nice dress that wears a stranger on the street. On the contrary, often, the distrust, anxiety, fear often learns at home. We are convinced that those who achieve results are recommended, not good but simply lucky. Happiness is associated with luck. And a family attitude of the genre, unfortunately, educates more than words. Not to rejoice, “underlines Dr. Cozzolino.
The ability to desire
“An essential element to be happy is the ability to desire, to have dreams and projects. It is a bit like the Saturday of the village, the wait creates pleasure. We think, for example, to wait for a trip: in three weekends I will go to Paris. The pleasure is not only when I go up to the Eiffel Tower, but also on the days when I will imagine that experience. Happiness is often linked to the ability to dream and design the future. Also in this The role of FAmiglia is fundamental: Some, in fact, do not allow you to dream, not even to cultivate small dreams, even banal. And this has nothing to do with having, but with being. To be able to imagine and want to become anything you want to be: teacher, lawyer, singer. When the family of origin denies to desire it is difficult to say that they have been happy. The good news, however, is that we can choose every day to be happy. Here and now », concludes Dr. Cozzolino.
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