Qhen the pain on an emotional level in a couple relationship becomes too intense or too intense, as well as frequent, our internal defenses can end up turning off or at least attenuating our emotions to protect and protect ourselves. You no longer cry or get angry, and this happens not because you don’t care about the specific situation, but because you perceive the suffering as unmanageable.
A survival mechanism
This mechanism helps you survive, but unfortunately it can also lead you to detach from yourself and to have difficulty recognizing and respecting your needs within the couple’s relationship. Recognizing and then understanding the emotional dissociation we are experiencing is therefore the first step towards returning to feeling and therefore expressing one’s needs and feelings towards oneself and towards one’s partner.
What is emotional dissociation
Emotional dissociation is in fact one automatic response to relational stress in a dysfunctional and harmful couple relationship. Emotional dissociation, specifically, causes the person who suffers from it to reduce contact with his emotions, reaching the point in the most serious cases of becoming emotionally “anesthetized”, thus stopping to react to even the most unpleasant situations, and therefore characterizing itself as a real defense mechanism of the individual.
When it becomes a stable pattern
With time and relative internalization, emotional dissociation can become a negative primary style of coping with events and dynamics within the couple: this can also lead to a rejection or a deep and structured detachment from oneselfa great difficulty in recognizing and then satisfying one’s needs and expectations, one low self-esteem and one little self-confidenceas well as the staying in harmful and destructive relationships.
You can get out of emotional dissociation
The good news is that emotional dissociation, however, is reversible, by working on oneself to achieve full awareness of one’s psychological functioning, through support, which is not only from trusted and authentic friends and family, but also professional, for example through an effective psychotherapy course, which teaches specific techniques and strategies to counteract or prevent emotional dissociation.
Towards healthier relationships
Recognizing one’s emotional dissociation, and then questioning it and modifying it in a new perspective that is now nourishing and rehabilitating, is therefore a fundamental and founding step towards healthier, reciprocal and balanced couple relationships.
When loving hurts, the book on emotional addiction
THE’Lovein its healthiest and most constructive manifestations, represents a profound and innate human needand implies an important motivation and a secure and functional attachment to others. Vice versa, when love turns into a habit of sufferingto the point of becoming what is defined as a real “emotional addiction”, presents itself as a pain capable of causing serious problems psychological, physical and relational.
In this condition, increasingly widespread in the contemporary world, the couple’s relationship is experienced as an indispensable prerequisite for one’s existence and this represents the antithesis of self-love.
In this volume the author provides an in-depth, complete and detailed examination of emotional addiction, based on an exhaustive analysis of the currently existing scientific literature.
The objective is to provide the reader with a clear idea of what emotional dependence is, how it is conceptualized and how it can manifest itself. As well as his own causes and strategies and intervention techniques to face and overcome it.
