We seem to be tired of sex. We don’t feel like it anymore. You can read or hear this almost every day in all kinds of publications and podcasts. I’ll just grab it, above the belt of course, because maybe, just maybe, the NRCreaders also called sex-tired.
Especially in de Volkskrant the red flag was raised, as if the editors, close to sexual exhaustion, could only stare blankly at their own, apparently undesirable, navel.
“Sexual activity has only increased among people over 75, the rest of the population is in a sex recession,” my esteemed fellow columnist Marcia Luyten quoted research data as saying. I read it as a 79-year-old with some unseemly pride. She also referred approvingly to the book The right is ruining our sex by Daan Borrel.
I just had a big interview with this Drink Het Parool read. I understood from this that she had tried “a Taoist course in meditative masturbation”. It taught her “a lot about sensuality and eroticism”, but in the end it turned out not to be a solution to her sex problem. She believes that “politics should create better conditions for more enjoyable sex lives.” You would expect that especially from left-wing politicians, she believes.
Jesse Klaver as the driving force behind our sex life? Well, better than Geert Wilders or Thierry Baudet, but for me it would mainly be a reason to take that course in Taoist meditative masturbation, also to avoid sinful thoughts of Caroline van der Plas or Mona Keijzer.
Sex fatigue as a business model – why not?
Back to the Volkskrant, where this week there was also room for a two-page interview with “Late bloomer” Billy Zijp, a 24-year-old woman. She has few men in her life. “I just don’t feel the need for it. Maybe it would have been easier if I had been attracted to women.”
Here too, the message is emphasized by a statement on the front page: sex, heterosex especially, why should you?
A name that appears in all kinds of publications and podcasts in this area is that of sexologist Mariëtte Sinninghe Damsté from Amsterdam. Of course she has also written a book: Sex-out – get rid of your sexual burn-out in 4 steps. Last year she conducted a survey among 1,511 heterosexuals between the ages of 18 and 85. Sex fatigue occurred in 67 percent. She calls it “a silent epidemic.”
That must suit her, because her website shows that she offers all kinds of expensive remedies to listless heterosexuals. Sex fatigue as a business model – why not? For example, she offers: ‘Love retreats’, 3-4 days in a hotel, 745-895 euros pp. “For many couples it feels exciting to work on sexuality in the presence of others.” ‘Massage rituals’, 3 hours from 325 euros. “When I personally guide you and/or your partner, I invite you through my touch to make contact with the flow of love in your body.” ‘Love Bubble
In short, those who suffer from sex fatigue should not despair. Don’t worry about all those alarming surveys, podcasts and books, listen carefully to your libido – and never forget your toothbrush.
